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image by greeneyesofrain After numerous dating disasters one thing always sticks in my mind. There has not been an ex boyfriend i dated who didn't call their last partner 'craaaaazy.' The term is used so loosely, and people often languish in it. Almost having it as an option to alienate and discredit those that they don't really like. For example with one boyfriend, i found it wasn't so much that his ex girlfriend was 'crazy' it was that he had no self esteem, she had some self esteem, was actually confident, and he was too clingy. She had an independant nature about her, and was sociable, popular, outgoing and supposedly areal force of nature, despite being 'craaaaaazy,' my ex boyfriend could not resist moaning and ranting, or even trying to compete with her. It begs the question. If someone is crazy, why try and compete with them, doesn't that mean their completely illogical, a threat to your safety, and the safety of those around you, why

image by Mothykyuu Fight for what you want. Go for it because you only live once. I'll say this a thousand times. It's weird that i say it so many times on redebony but it's the truth, so many people in life, live it afraid. They are in this natural passive state of fear, and their so used to being afraid sometimes they don't realise that is what their feeling. sometimes if you don't try. If you don't tap into the frequency of the explorer, you will not venture into the unknown and see what you need to see, find the answers you need to find, know what's right for you or who is right for you. It's so easy to slump back in life and let everybody else live, because were just so scared to do. Scared of being judged. What will other people think of us? Lets rise above what they think? Decide that it's not about what they think, or who they are. We respect ourselves, lets continue to do that. And not let envious people rotten with their own inferio

image by u22andme22 In life there will be many times you will find yourself experiencing an emotional beatdown. Cheesey as it may sound to you. Tap into something greater than you right now. Stir yourself up, get excited, focus on the road ahead, and the goals you have which you can visualise clearly in your minds eye. Remind yourself how great you are. It's easy to listen to the voices of all our critics, our biggest critic ourself. Telling us what we cant do, what we cannot accomplish. Fix your gaze on what you can do, and what you can accomplish for now, tap into a spirit of faith. You are energy, freedom, and joy in essence. Engage in that. Everything we need is within us. Life is full of emotional beatdowns. Wherever there's an up, in time you will find a down, but we have to find the strength to look for that peaceful place within ourselves, within our lives. Even when there's anarchy on the outside. Wether it's put downs, negative situations, we are boun

image by Trixiepixie Once upon a time. Pre recession didn't everyone have this neat habbit of convincing the world around them that they were living this perfect happy life. Everything was immaculate, the job situation, marriage, boyfriend, good times, good times. The funny thing is though. Since the recession people can't even be bothered to lie anymore,  "how's work?" crap,  "how's your boyfriend?" "There." So i decided in my own warped merriment to see if we can look for something positive that has come out of the recession. Although some people hate the retail industry, i'm starting to think it's a recession proof job, along with the fact that there are more opportunities in key worker roles like nursing, social work, and of course, therapy, i think everybody feels they need a bit of therapy and tlc. Self employment has improved big time....What i love even more though is when you do look at someone and say "i'm

image by Kanikey Gossips love to tell stories about people because idiots love to listen. They churn it out giving you half truths, telling jokes they know are either cruel or contemptuous. We can all make the mistake of engaging a gossip, just because their doing it to someone else doesn't mean they won't do it to you. In fact their guaranteed to do it to you. Gossip has been embraced as normalcy since were all drowning in celeb gossip and the failures, and successes, do's and donts, what they did, could have done, might do, may possibly be offered. The key thing about gossips to remember is that they gossip because they havent ot that much else to offer about their own lives. There's no adventure, depth, history, something that makes you want to stay and spend time with them, so they distract and waste your time by having youfocus on the flaws of someone else. Their always eager to give you the new news, you know, what they've discovered next. Found out,

image by tx01c The ultimate looser in my eyes is a guy whose too scared to go after what he wants. Rather than face up to that. When he knows he lacks the confidence to go after the girl he's probably wanted for a while, even you've sensed it. Maybe it's the guy that's been watching you and didn't think you saw him looking, asking questions about you, happening to be exactly where you are, at exactly when your there. It's becoming too much to be coincidence.....and you finally give in. Rather than face up to his fear of rejection. Mr absolutely spineless decides the best thing to do is to slate you. After all if you feel small about yourself, maybe you'll feel small enough to date him...WRONG!! There is nothing more cringe worthy than a guy like this. Not only do you not respect him, but he actually doesn't respect himself. He's so riddled with insecurities, he's such an advert for aself slander campaign, that after a while it becomes

image by Meisterdeszirkuss For years i was bullied and targeted by an older woman. I never fully understood where the depth of her contempt came from, i just knew that suddenly a woman who had years on me, had birthed this obsessive need to compete. This jealousy and envy she felt, meant she manipulated those around her, and completely villified me, and someone who should have shown just a hint of backbone didn't just stand back and watch it happen, but he was so utterly spineless and so desperate for his mother's approval, he'd egg her on viciously in secret, desperate to fit in with the mob. Not aware that there's things only a woman can see, that sometimes, a man does not acknowledge. This woman was dumpy looking. despite being attractive, she looked like she'd had a fight with life it had kicked the crap out of her, and all that was left was this old battered soul. Her shoulders always slumped when i saw her and nothing said she had even an ounce of self

image by Tomijoy In our quest for more, we often forget the importance of celebrating the day and just being gretful for what we have. I took my dog out for a walk today, it was amazing, the sun beamed down on my head, the breeze, the air felt lovely. I appreciated, just the beauty, and the simplicity of Earth and nature. Everybody felt so happy, everybody looked so good, and there was such freedom in the air. If you are desperate to be happy, and you think acquiring more stuff will get you there, i'm here to burst the bubble and flood the pipes. You will feel motivated, driven, hungry, ambituos, and as you fight to source yourself to the very top, you will begin to feel prouder. Your ego will expand. The reality is though, those things will not guarantee that you are happy. Happiness begins with now. It's those small steps we take, those actions to create that framework within our lives that keeps us satisfied, fulfilled, joyful from within. Forgive yourself your mist

Its a jungle out there, and sometimes you find yourself being someone else's emotional prey. Wether your being bullied at school, the lowest common denominator in the work totem pole, there is something that each have in common. Anger that burns from within. The need to control other people because sometimes life seems completely out of our control. If your suffering silently, or ranting and raving to friends and colleagues, here's something to keep in mind. This is not the end, it feels awful at the time, and it will pass. I once worked in a scenario where one male colleague, who was very bitchy competitive, and just a little bit to prejudiced for my liking, took it upon himself to try and turn the whole work force against me. I was gutted because i had tried to be so nice, understanding the rule that when your an outsider, and you come into an already formed team, where bonds have been made and people have already made a connection. Especially if the organisation is mo

image by Malice The Pretty woman soundtrack is trending at the moment, maybe it's the nostalgia of valentines day gone, bringing the romantic back in all of us. That wish fulfillment to find love and have someone validate you not for what you are, but who you are, that essence. Most women love the film. The character was feisty, bubbly, funny, warm, loving, endearing, insecure at times, we all have those elements of our personality, and Julia Roberts with that dynamite figure and dynamic smile put the Kapow in the Movie along with Richard Gere's seductive gentleman charms. Yet how do women respond to an attractive female in general? It's an interesting debatable topic.With pretty celebrity women we assume that they have uber self esteem because they are often worshipped and idolised in the media. Wether their Russian women, Chinese women, Any woman in general, as soon as they get the hottest women or hottest woman tag we nstantly think, that's it, your life is