Hypnotic: Why he cant take his eyes off you

hearingtheharmony

Simply put because your so charming your alarming. That's right sometimes we have to toot our own horns , acknowledge our strength our beauty, The qualities that draw people of the opposite sex to us.
Men love a beautiful smile, maybe he caught a glimpse of that movie star grin of yours, those flirtatious bambi eyes and the street strut as though everywhere was your catwalk. Was it the bouncers( trainers) that you had on? The Kate moss pumps, or that red dress that seems to hug everywhere in all the right places. Attention is great, we all like to be acknowledged by the object of our affections. Respect is better. How to proceed...how to proceed.

Don't be a pop tart. Over eager, over friendly, overbearing girls, just get avoided. Although feminism does encourage women to be more independent, and be more domineering, and take charge, you can take a camel to the water, sadly you cant force it to drink. Female intuition gets our senses tingling, we hope we can tell the difference between damn she's fit, and ooh that's a hot mess I've never seen anything like it. Lead with regular smiles, greetings. "Hi." Let him extend a hi back, be consistent and not.....we've all been at those points in our lives or come across those people who you know if you don't say hi, or good morning, you can just picture them with a samurai sword and a shotgun. You don't wanna be that chick. Men love to chase. They say they hate women who play a lot of games, and once upon a time, on a little Island called la la land, I bought into that. There are levels of game playing that certain types of characters, not primarily men are willing to tolerate, it's all about self esteem, and self love. In a nutshell though, the hunt validates them. They are hunters, and women are story tellers, it gives both parties the opportunity....to high five themselves.

So the stare. Most body language experts hum about dilated pupils, feet pointed in your direction.......call in the experts it's a gypsy wedding. I will say this, make sure he's doing more than staring or glaring at you, make sure he's trying to build some consistent effective communication.  Making chit chat, trying to get to know you on a more personal level, it has to be more than a look.

 

How to empower yourself:Forgiving the enemy

Clinton story about Nelson Mandela

“Mandela made a grand, elegant, dignified exit from prison and it was very, very powerful for the world to see. But as I watched him walking down that dusty road, I wondered whether he was thinking about the last 27 years, whether he was angry all over again. Later, many years later, I had a chance to ask him. I said, ‘Come on, you were a great man, you invited your jailers to your inauguration, you put your pressures on the government. But tell me the truth. Weren’t you really angry all over again?’ And he said, ‘Yes, I was angry. And I was a little afraid. After all I’ve not been free in so long. But,’ he said, ‘when I felt that anger well up inside of me I realized that if I hated them after I got outside that gate then they would still have me.’ And he smiled and said, ‘I wanted to be free so I let it go.’ It was an astonishing moment in my life. It changed me.” http://lenski.com/letting-go-of-anger-resentment-and-grudges/



I thought about anger today, and how resentment swallows you up like a starved prisoner. In the short term we feel strong, in the long term the negative things we focus on claim us. Do you want to give your life to someone who you know is not worthy, not of your time, not even of your spiritual communication. It's such a load to hold anger and resentment in your heart. It causes illness, creates more fear, and are you actually happy for being able to recollect all the nasty things, someone who right now could simply be as forgetful as a fly has done to you?forgiveness is one of the hardest things to do. I've spent ages resenting a woman who unrightfully acted negatively and superior towards my family. A woman who hasn't achieved, neither her family accomplished some of the accolades we have as a unit. Each member of our family has their own creative style, and cv of success. This woman i knew was governed by her own jealousy, and feelings of inferiority and discontent. No matter how nice or polite we were, sometimes members of her family would be locked out and we'd let them pass through our house. This is a basic neighbourly thing to do. Her family have never done that for us. During a panic attack i'd asked her partner to simply dial the ambulance's number, as when i have panic attacks, or as an epileptic my body is preparing for a seizure, her partner refused yet as god would have it my sister was on her way home. You don't have to be best friends with someone. You just have to try and forgive them in your heart, so you can move on. Resentment taints the ability to trust, it creates a barrier not just between you and someone that made the wrong choices, acted in the wrong way, was negative, hostile and wicked. Celebrate your empowerment, celebrate your free mind. One day people will bring that person's name up, you'll hear a vicious or decietful comment that person made, you may bump into that person on the street, and you will feel nothing anymore. They will mean nothing and all their power is gone.SET YOURSELF FREE!!!