The fight to stay happy

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Happiness.It's a fight. We have to fight to be happy, and when you are happy, you have to fight to stay happy, because your joy will carry you through many obstacles in your life. We fail when we give up on ourselves, and when you see only darkness you are destined to. People take for granted the importance of being happy. When i was younger and finding my feet, even until recently. I thought strength was all about being able to show people how angry you are, all that teenage angst, evolving into adult chips on our shoulders. I thought strength was the big mouth that hollers in the street, and the person who talks the biggest. Strength is so much more than that. Claiming your victory, holding unto your happiness, and outrightly refusing to let anybody steal your spirit. Happiness are the thoughts that we choose to focus on day in and day out. You are what you believe in. Your faith, your dreams, your ambitions, your essence, how many people do we allow to steal our happiness day in and day out. Your joy belongs to you. Even if your in the park on your own, out on the street, in your bedroom alone, wherever you are, wether you vocalise it, or speak it internally... claim it. Your joy is yours it belongs to you. "This joy is mine!My joy belongs to me." Laugh as loudly as you can, smile to every single person you meet, grin and celebrate all the little things. Live life with gratitude because your still here and your still standing. We will always cross paths with negative people that trigger our alarm systems, cross the street and hold unto your piece of mind. It's easy to engage with them, but when you do nobody ever really wins. Focus on building yourself up, staying positive and staying happy.

How to remind yourself your made of strong stuff

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The world is full of....potential. Sometimes you find yourself stumbling upon People that were told they were brilliant so often, they took it for granted. They became lazy about their ambitions. Their potential folded, and with time so did some of their dreams.
Then there are the hustlers....... You hear about their stories in magazines. People who ate,slept,drank, peed their vision. They knew that success means work. Goals mean action, and if you want to see them happen, put in the work. If it's monotonous make it fun. If it's dull add some flamboyancy. They were begged to call it quits. Give up , pack a suitcase, stop 'punishing' themselves but it was impossible for them to do, they had set their mind to something and wanted to see it come to pass. Rather than throwing in the towel, they got angry, and became persistent, flexible, chameleonesque in front of any gauntlet. They were like water. They bucked their shoulders up, narrowed their eyes, and decided they would become unstoppable. When things become tough or feel impossible, fix your mind on this...many of those people are great leaders now, athletes, inventors, they have inspired nations

Face front first: Cultivating confidence

Some people are told their personalities rub people up the wrong way, their not strong enough, not loud enough, not quiet enough, not humble till their eating dirt enough. I ask the question...Am i to be enough for me, or enough for you. Life drags us through the mud and the mire. There are many of us who envisioned our lives a certain way, and grope with distress in the dark. I used to have friends who would whisper like snakes, judging like a jury panel, about people who learnt to stomach their pain, daring to walk with their head held high, pride hanging off them like robes. It made my friends feel jealous, inadequate, judgemental, and sometimes cruel. I quickly took leave. It's easy to tear someone down, ridicule them, for having strength, yet could you be that strong in their shoes?Would you even be able to tie your shoe laces? Would you be able to pick your eyes up from the stains on the floor, would you need puppet strings for your shoulders? It's often very attractive women, or people that appear to be confident, or bold, or brave,or successful that we as a society need desperately to know their place. Yet it's not your life, it's theirs. If there's a lesson to learn the universe will teach them it. Once i was pissed off at someone for so long i didn't realise my malice wasn't making them change what i believe was the wrong behaviour. When i attempted to take charge of my own life, and focussed my energy on me. I realised condemning them, or whining, or complaining about their behaviour wasnt making me right, it was making me mean. Mean people are not happy people, and happiness attracts in abundance. The world doesnt need to be directed according to our rules, our main rules should be to be happy, have self esteem, and cultivate the free flow of positive energy.

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