Eating up Enthusiasm for life

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Where is your enthusiasm? Where is your excitement for life? Find it. If you know where it is and the universe is being stubborn, fight for it. With everything In your being. We only live once, excuses won't make us feel better when we don't take the actions we need to take to transform our lives. Judging other people for their choices won't fix your life. What's happening in your life? Where's your progress? What are your goals and ambitions? What is your motivation? In life sometimes we find ourselves stranded. We are on an Island, and this Island of our own thoughts , own discontent keeps us regulating a life in constant rotation of negative choices. Pick a positive assertive choice for you. It's not who they think you are. It's who you know you are. Know your worth. This is your life. It isn't a trial, it isn't a practice run, it's happening. Find things to be joyful about. If you find yourself trapped in a situation you don't want to be in, find a way out, but do not, let yourself crumble. Real strength comes from tough times. Our tough times define eaxctly who we are. We are strength. We are courage, we are knowledge, and we are wisdom in one. Fight for what is deep within you, the good things, let them come to the surface and show you the light.

Crunchtime for a crush

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Crushes can be heartbreaking. Their called crushes for a reason.   All the could be's, might be's, possibly's...Crushes are not real relationships.I learnt the hard way that you should like someone for the strength and qualities you know and respect about them, not what you think you might respect about them. Shallow and surface things do not define a real fit. For example i had a crush on a friend who i thought was absolutely hysterical,i liked him, because he was charming, charismatic and likable. The reality was when i needed him for something outside of being easygoing entertainment,for any real calamity. He was unavailable. The phone would ring, he wouldn't answer it,but i'd become so used to this method of behaviour i began to make excuses for it. Private confidences shared with him at first had become parlour trick performances. Personal confidences about dates, relationships and friendships gone wrong would be used to amuse and entertain friends until one day i realised something. What if maybe i didn't like him so much? What if maybe i didn't know him so well and just liked what he represented. Ding dong. It is easy to get a cataract in your eye because of a crush, but let reality speak when she comes. I needed someone i could trust, someone who could understand me, who cared as much for me, as i did for them. I learned a valuable lesson, through many of my experiences. Learn to love yourself the right way.

How to find the love of your life

When choosing a partner or someone to cancel out the loneliness, sometimes we pick the wrong person. A good looking guy/woman with a poor character, someone who has a history of letting others down, or a person who is known to have in consistency when it comes to commitment. In the short term they may satisfy our physical needs, but what about our emotional needs?

What would you choose? Beauty fades.  Attraction may disintegrate over time, passion can become a precious memory. What qualities will you pick in a partner?Loyalty?strength and honesty?....Of course love. Choosing a partner can be hard work. Look beneath the surface. Pay attention to more than a pretty face, and keep looking. Boy oh boy have i learnt the hard way. You dont know someone in a minute. You dont gain and aquire their trust in weeks, months even. The story begins to unfold over time, you see the gaps, the holes even, and decide wether you'll stick it out for this one. Magnifying glass love is not what i'm talking about. People are like sandwiches it's up to us to see wether we'll wait around long enough to see what's in between.
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