Showing posts with label wounds. Show all posts
Showing posts with label wounds. Show all posts

Wednesday, 6 March 2013

How to stop beating up on yourself










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In this lifetime you will make mistakes. Mistakes that embarrass you, mistakes that damage your name, reputation, and sometimes even friendships and those we love. Lessons are always painful, but we need to learn them. We need to discover the most important thing of all, a bounce back mentality. Taking responsibility after you've made a mistake. Yet still claiming your victory. It's easy to beat yourself up constantly recycling the old measures and bad choices of the past. You did them. It's done now. It's time to move on. It's time to just be free of wounds that continue to chorus and persecute you. Yet when you step out into the street, every face you see, everywhere you go, there will be people that have made the same mistakes as you. Some have made even worse, some just keep making mistakes over and over and over again.

In life we come across people who judge others harshly. They live in immaculate glass houses and they don't throw stones, but boulders. That adds to us judging ourselves so intensely, determined to be perfect creatures. There is no such thing as a perfect person. Perfect people do not exist. Infact our flaws make us interesting. Our mistakes give us a story to tell. Stop beating up on yourself, you dont deserve it.

Tuesday, 30 October 2012

Knowing what to pay attention to







When I was younger and I had to fight my way through high school, I had a poor Habbit. It was a Habbit that made me popular with my peers, infamous for being gutsy, rowdy and fearless. I tuned my ears, tight, and would listen carefully to all the negative things other girls might have to say about me. Nasty comments, put downs, if someone was trying to bully me or make me the butt of their joke, I would confront them publicly. Ensuring that other people saw how weak they were. Despite the voracity of which I fought back, I began to feel negative about myself. Years and years later I realise my mistake. People will talk no matter what you do. Some of the greatest people in history were ridiculed and torn down, they translated the negative into a positive. They left the talkers to talk whilst they focused on building their self esteem. Growing and enhancing their authenticity. When people tear us down it can be devastating, it rakes up old wounds, different insecurities can be hurled up like vomit. Yet in the long run its not what other people think of you that defines your stance in life, it's what you think of you. Are you gonna waste time putting your ear to the wall to take in poison, or are you gonna focus on healing and growth.

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