The challenge of unemployment

Many of us have dealt with the challenge of unemployment, the frustration of job hunting, the rejections, the denials, the constant requests and perusing the internet for opportunities. Getting yourself ready for interview after interview only to recieve a rejection in your email, a denial saying , no access. You have been denied. Polishing up your CV, attending job centre workshops, recruitment programmes only to find there's no job at the end, attending more and more training programs, mentorship programs with the outcome being, the job market remains over saturation Our aims as a programme are to connect you to key mentors, advisors, coaches and tutors, provide you with mental health support, and employment opportunities that help aid you and give you a greater sense of fulfillment. We are the hotbox community, Welcome to our hub.

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Feeling inner friendship: How to fight for the confidence within

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It is an interesting thing, learning to allow the insults of others fall on deaf ears, yet today...it's something i plan to fight to keep hold of. People have a habit of trying to kick us when were down, and yet not all of them. There is  a world of people out t here. Not hundreds, not thousands, but millions, billions, and possibly even trillions. While we sit disecting the actions of the few, you are more than their narrow minded thinking. You are the way you are. Often times we fix and adjust ourselves according to size. Someone feels threatened so you humble yourself more, someone thinks your arrogant , so you ensure you express humility. Guess which lesson i had to learn the hard way this year. No matter what you do, there are people in life who will find ways and reason's not to like you. Yet for everyone who doesn't there are probably ten more, 50 more or a hundred more who will. Just as you are. Not needing you to negotiate your traits, not judging or questioning every move you make, because they have lives, and you are not the god of their existence.

I used to think that you need everyone to like you,then i started to realize with age, most people can actually count all their friends on one finger. People who have been there for you. There are people out there who will always be riled up because your something their not, you have a quality that they may not have.

Confidence is something worth fighting for. I was at a business seminar once and my Mentor asked me about close friends, feeling a loss, i said not too many of those. To that he succintly replied you have to be your best friend, you have to like you first before other people do, you have to see yourself as worthy enough to be loved, and worthy enough to be appreciated. We are a self worth discovering. I realize and i accept that people are flawed,some of the greatest people you'll ever meet, with telling stories, with vision with purpose went through this struggle called life. We are not perfect people. Do some of us go through hell trying to be perfect? Do some of us come through the Wars battling to please everyone around us, especially those we love? Yes. Can some of us be cruel at times, and be versions of ourselves we don't respect? Not that many people go out of their way to be imperfect, and yet i say to anyone who is trying to build themselves up, the person next to you is also carrying baggage on this trek. We may not be at Mecca yet, but we are still building and tearing down, your mental home will always need refurnishing.

Positive thinking techniques to push through pain

Its a jungle out there, and sometimes you find yourself being someone else's emotional prey. Wether your being bullied at school, the lowest common denominator in the work totem pole, there is something that each have in common. Anger that burns from within. The need to control other people because sometimes life seems completely out of our control. If your suffering silently, or ranting and raving to friends and colleagues, here's something to keep in mind. This is not the end, it feels awful at the time, and it will pass. I once worked in a scenario where one male colleague, who was very bitchy competitive, and just a little bit to prejudiced for my liking, took it upon himself to try and turn the whole work force against me. I was gutted because i had tried to be so nice, understanding the rule that when your an outsider, and you come into an already formed team, where bonds have been made and people have already made a connection. Especially if the organisation is more like a social club than a workforce.

Positive thinking helps us step outside the realms of a negative bracket. Try some Effective positive thinking techniques to help push through your pain barrier.

 Understand that your feelings should not dictate the rest of your day. Be the master of your ship. There are key things to get you in a positive state when you wake up in the morning. Exercise releases endorphins, that affect the body and stimulate the brain. Get yourself pumped

Positive thinking affirmations, along with positive tools are great for getting yourself into that mind body zone connection.
I am a worthwhile person
I am valuable
I am a magnet for joy
I will attract the right people to me
I am learning and growing, i am only human, i will make mistakes
The greatest men and women have made mistakes.

Remind yourself that we are often our harshest critics. What did you accomplish today? What made you feel proud? What put a smile on your face? If you didn't smile go and stand in front of your reflection, and practice smiling.

Put on something that makes you laugh. This is the power of positive thinking, it will move you from a negative frame of circumference ,to a more open and inviting energy. You will begin to attract more people with the right vibration to you like a magnet, they will be drawn to your personality and you will begin to like yourself more. Focus on the right things. When we find ourselves in a negative or depressive pit, it can often be because our mental pattern keeps us reverting to type.  If you need to focus on something positive. Focus on what you have achieved, or what you plan to achieve, because you are on a journey. Be fixed on your goals and the positive and sacred things in your life.