Research can make things right: Don't abuse yourself when you make a mistake

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Next time I'll do it better. Research, make sure I understand. I am consistently saying life is trial and error. It is. If you don't get it wrong, you won't get it right. If you don't start, you won't learn anything. Things look pretty on paper, yet you have to take the action. See if your strategy works before you invest more in it. Wether it's a product, dating a new partner after a bad relationship, making a new friend after a bad experience. Sometimes we do actually learn lessons and put their wisdom into practice.

Denied but not disappointed: Picking the right people

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Let the wrong one's deny you. In life when you take a bold step often you will find that those people who were once upon a time friendly, may distance themselves from you. As though you were packing heat.Remember in time though when your boldness pays off, or the people you once cared for try and sneak into your bosom, the door is closed until they earn your trust and respect. The possibility is dead in the water. You can be polite, be sociable, but make sure they see you know that their a shape shifter. You are aware of how quickly they turn and it's not something you desire or require. Their approval is not something you need.

I have never been a saint. What i will say though is what we do to others affects something deep within ourselves.A while ago i reached out to the wrong type of person. Someone with a nasty jealous spirit, and in return because they had no self esteem, they tried to crush mine. When you choose people to associate with, it is important to pick wisely. Some people will never earn your respect, but just make sure you respect yourself.

Dealing with mixed messages

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Mixed messages, the bane of dating for the single entrepreneur. If your giving your attentions to someone who is giving you mixed messages, it means that person is unclear. A house built on poor foundations cannot stand . In the long term there is one person guaranteed to get hurt, that person is you. Ask the person your interested in where you stand. If there actions continue to show you the opposite of their words, back away and decide to either focus on building your self esteem up, or entering that dating pool and finding someone better suited to you. Someone who knows exactly what they want.

Dont involve yourself  with a greedy gourder. Sometimes people like our affections and all the things that come with us, but dont want to sacrifice. They dont want to commit. How many women or men have been there. Youre constantly chasing someone who appears to be interested, yet when you really want them to step up, it's a completely different ball game. Focus on you, on building yourself up and building yourself esteem up, i say it time and time again. Our outer selves is just the shell, our inner selves are where our vulnerabilities lie, we must build ourselves up so were strong from within. That way its harder for the wrong type of people to come in and try and play games with us.

There is no shame in asking where you stand. If we dont ask the right questions, we dont get the right answers.

Fighting Fallen thoughts

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Wow emotional relapse or what? We have moments where our self pity gets the better of us. Pity got the better of me yesterday, my eyes sweated out onions, and my smile needed a treasure hunt. Someone great once told me, failure is not something that happens instantaneously. It is a series of opportunistic regrets. I call these moments, the small moments. Where you get so caught up in what you could have done, should have done, who you could have been...you forget who you need to be for yourself right now. There were times in my life where if you'd asked me, i could tell you in intimate minutia detail what i'd done wrong, where and how. Now though i believe in focussing on the things you are getting right. The things that fill you with pride and a sense of righteous self esteem day in and day out. Not because your getting the tap on the back that you deserve or the aggressive handshake, more so because you know who you are, and you respect who you are. It's easy to let other people strip us bare. People who dont even know us leave our walls barren sometimes, hollow, and at times we may even feel nameless. Yet in the darkness, be proud and upright in who you are. That true essence, that sense of self, that part of you that no one can steal or take away from you, because it belongs to who...it belongs to you. Today, you are going to celebrate who you are. Simply because failure is not the final chord.