Friending up the Frenemy: Tired of playing fiend with the foe

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Friending up the foe will be hard work. They will have trust issues, after all how would you feel if you're enemy suddenly started being nice, you'd wonder what exactly they want first of all. You'd be suspicious, cautious, wonder why captain cruel has become captain charisma. It may be a long arduos process, or you may find that you click after a few sessions of bonding.

Pay attention to them. What are their likes? Dislikes? Little things, Birthdays so you can say Happy Birthday.
Even things like acknowledging their star signs and sharing star sign info
Compliment them, loud enough for them to hear or do some thing nice and say something nice that will get back to them
Defend them against someone cruel who is spreading malicious gossip about them
Share something with them,
Create a  habbit of saying good morning, good evening, and good afternoon to them
If you have any information that might be useful pass it towards them, or someone related to them
Be friendly to someone they know, so they can go back and tell that person how nice you are.
Smile often
Give them an invite somewhere exclusive. For example if your having a drink up at your house, if your having a party, if you and some friends are going to the cinema, or going to
Make them laugh, a joke always breaks the ice
Apologise and clear the air if deep down you know you were wrong for certain things

You guys will not be Bessie mates instantly...but if you try not to be needy. You focus on your own life and just doing your own things, showing your sociable, likable and friendly, you will draw them in like a magnet. If their agenda is to stay angry, stay bitter, and enjoy the lack of benefits it brings, let them reap their own miserable reward.

Question Hotspot: Do compatible signs make compatible people?

Compatibility of sign!!! Does it give you a guarantee that you are meant for each other?
If your sun sign, venus and mars are all compatible or lets say all other sign in birth chart...does it give a guarantee that you are meant for each other? Or Astrology is just something that give a person an idea of how others behave, react, feel, deal w/ others according to their sign. And the rest is still on the hands of our creator above



Nothing guarantees a perfect relationship. Astrology in it's entirety does not define a superior immaculate relationship. We may find that we have certain things in common, with certain types of individuals, but this isn't always to do with star signs. For example Sheila may feel she is constantly in sync with Libra's, "I always get along with Libra's, their such a gas." Yet here's a key question. There are over 600 billion people,some of them are Libra's. Has she met every Libra in the whole world? No. Infact there are probably some Libra's out there she hasn't met, that are complete and utter nightmares. What she has done is attached a positive recreational memory to Libra's. Maybe she's met 3/ 4 nice guys/people, and made an internal statement that Libra's are nice people.







There's also the impact of media, and published articles validate particular star signs as having particular traits. As society is often governed by media, certain people will read these items, and that adds to the consensus different star signs behave in different ways. The same goes with the other star signs. It's really about the individual personality and how they balance out. Their history, and how they choose to behave within a relationship when they are comfortable. The difference between a person comfortable within a relationship and someone whose







uncomfortable,is simple. People who are comfortable in relationships are raw, and their real. They are relaxed enough in their skin to show the different facets of their personality within that relationship, they trust themselves therefore they trust themselves in order to deal with you. Stiff people in relationship often have what i would define as 'relationship behaviour' they act how they think they should behave within a relationship,pressure mounts, and miscommunication ensues. Compatibility and star signs will continue to fascinate and boggle the mind of human beings everywhere. Star signs are fascinating. Their alignment with human behaviour, partnerships and life itself will always appeal to the romantic notions, and the curiosity we have about the cosmic world. Yet, a star sign is only a generalisation of human nature. It's not the intimacies, the private and independant history, it's a combination of psych, human curiosity, and the need to believe there's so much more to a world, that at times may feel too basic to bare. You can explore more of your theories on this page.