Goals with distinction

Have clear defined goals and a strategy to alienate fear and succumb to success. With each goal you conquer you are building self esteem, building faith, extending a path for yourself and dipping your mind into a baptism of new energy. It is key to nurture each goal with literature,maybe first thing in the morning read a verse from a mentor who inspires you, talk to someone who has changed their lives, watch a video that gets your juices going and reaffirm to yourself that these practices with productivity can be done. Success is a system of things, it is a play that you must rehearse in your mind, before it becomes real in the physical world. Tap into your infinite potential by tuning into source, and believing you can change the course of destiny with active practice. It is with discipline we redefine ourselves. It is with focus we become an instrument of success and victorious in our pursuits.

Unlocking the path to change

There is a myth , a dialogue nursed by surrounding yourself with the wrong audience of people. There is a lack of opportunity. People pick at opportunities like welts on their skin, ripping them aside like flesh then casting them away, they let the chaos bubble to the surface then weep to anyone who will listen.....we have no opportunities, they proclaim. These are not the people you want to be, neither are these the people you want to surround yourself with, for excuses have claimed them, and lack of prosperity eats into their time. It is easy to throw our hands up and proclaim, there is a lack of. Yet we must open up a stealthy mind. The more you programme your mind to spot opportunity, and consistently cultivate habbits that commandeer productive change, the more you will line up with a higher calling. You must do more than just believe, it is in your work ethic, it is in your dialogue with friends, it is in your social and cultural stratification, and your networking, it becomes more than a way of life and a methodology, it is an enhanced mindset. Change comes from within. All portals to navigate a greater change stem from the mind, every story you tell yourself is the fiction you will live and die by. There is no morse code, just your mental programming that unlocks your pathway to life.

Pots of gold through pain

We wait for pots of gold to collide with the practice of pain. I am in the midst of it, we say, there should be something for this chaos , this mess, that I can't seem to rectangle myself from. This upset. This is madness we shriek, it's not fair. Who told you, that life plays fair. Many of us come out of the womb thinking that life is a fair battlefield, that someone else's chaos is separate to yours. We watch the news, click the screen off, it's faraway, it's distant. Truth is, we are all connected. To even up the score , to play your own makestic round, I will say what I say time and again, use your mind. The mind is the most powerful asset in the world, utilise your time. You and a millionaire, a billionaire have one thing in common, this is a message that someone else taught me. You have 24 hours. 24 hours. How will you use your 24 hours, how will you use that time? What questions do you ask? What problems do you solve? If you slip into a mighty depression and simply believe you are the problem.....this is a problem. You have a purpose, train your mind to find it, and face the challenges that come with it.

Dating a mummy's boy

image by Miyavik


There can be great things about dating a mummy's boy, their sensitivity towards women, their understanding, but one of the main problems or key frustrations most women find. Is that a mummy's boy will always be tightly knotted to his mothers apron strings. It is impossible to disagree with his mother in anyway shape or form because you will instantly become arch enemy one. She may feel his mother is the main woman in his life, and all the decisions they make as a couple will consistently be contested by an insecure woman who doesn't want to share love, affections, or have a main role in her sons life. There is of course the competition. Not all mothers are like this. You do though come across some warped, ridiculously insecure jealous mothers, who upon thinking everything was fine when her son was simply dating you, when she senses a serious emotional connection turns 360 and becomes obsessed with trying the split the two of you up. Because simply put even if her son was the dumbest, low life in the universe, he still has enough potential to do better than you.

Here's my first tip of the day. If you can run sprint like an Olympian, if your in a wheel chair, wheel speedily away. Just joking. Every relationship needs its boundaries.

Sadly I do agree that even the scent of an over indulged mummy's boy, if it sends you running for the hills....I don't blame you. There will never be two people in your relationship, there will be 3, and you will often feel like the third wheel. Everytime there is a private debate, or fuelled discussion you will find yourself wondering which memo he's sent to his mother, wether he's sent it by pigeon or post.
That strong foundation of trust is made unsteady. Some women wonder how they ended up in a relationship with binoculars.

If you are dating a mummy's boy and it's working congratulations! You should definitely teach a seminar.

People pleasing and why no doesn't make you an outlaw

image by: Heather Wallet Rivet

People pleasing is one of the hardest things to do in life. Sometimes we disappoint those we love when we step outside the bracket of validating their needs. The people who love you may become disappointed in you, angry, distant for sometime, but if the love is real, then it remains. The problem with people pleasing is we spend a lifetime saying yes, when sometimes we want to say no. With that comes a hint of resenntment, anger within ourselves, because we're too scared to say no. Scared of the rejection, the potential to be alienated, the sadness that comes with their hurt and anger, and the labels we might get. If someone is angrytalk to them and ask them what they need. If it's space give them the space and distance they require, but do not be afraid to say no. You said no for a reason. It wasn't because you hate them, or you were being cruel. You said no because yes wouldn't have been the right thing to say.