High Heels and Hop Scotch: Signs your girlfriend/partner has not grown up

 

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Somebody call crime watch , these tantrums should be illegal. Yet somehow they are not and you find yourself in a relationship where your consistently walking on tripwires, hot coal or convinced there are planes circling overhead. Most of us have either been this person or have been stressed out from the drama of being in  a relationship with this type of individual. They never grew out of their spoilt brat complex and are convinced a relationship with you is all about your skill and ability to be an enabler.  Do you feel as though 'yes' is the only answer they want to hear? That constructive criticism guarantees an ensuing slaughter of digs, insults or passive aggressive behaviour. Maybe their queen speciality is the firework flip out, or explosive tantrums. You also find that a lot of your time is either spent appeasing their insecurities whilst they childishly try and compete, belittle, or begrudge whichever innocent victim has strayed into their riot of emotional issues. Are they petty, bitter, ridiculously spiteful, and refuse to never take responsibility for poor behaviour.  Are they obsessed with image and looking or appearing strong rather than investing in actually being strong,
Being around them you almost feel as though your back in high school or pre school, and you feel constantly dragged into the sewer of their immature games.

For any relationship to survive the key is honesty and good communication. Love and sensuality are key elements, along with trust, yet there also has to be respect and boundaries. I understand someone being so frustrated and reacting to feeling so disrespected they just explode. They light up like a gas tank. That is also down to poor communication. If you cannot express to the person your close to that your feeling bruised or hurt, betrayed, or taken for granted, however ridiculous it may sound to you, there is a problem and this problem is called communication. How do we try and improve our relationships, we listen more, and we try to express ourselves honestly. What is helping your situation? Ask them, why are you really reacting like this? What's upsetting you, lets talk about this. People like to be heard. Often poor behaviour is a side effect of either feeling ignored, or a misunderstanding somewhere in the relationship.

If you become aware that this person is using their behaviour as a platform for complete control within the relationship, then don't be an enabler. If they kick up throw a tantrum or give you the silent treatment give them some space for the mood to settle, and when you feel things have cooled a little, give them your perspective in a cool and even tone. A mature tone. Allow both sides to be heard with less judgement.

The Fabric of fictional lives

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Once upon a time. Pre recession didn't everyone have this neat habbit of convincing the world around them that they were living this perfect happy life. Everything was immaculate, the job situation, marriage, boyfriend, good times, good times. The funny thing is though. Since the recession people can't even be bothered to lie anymore,  "how's work?" crap,  "how's your boyfriend?"
"There." So i decided in my own warped merriment to see if we can look for something positive that has come out of the recession. Although some people hate the retail industry, i'm starting to think it's a recession proof job, along with the fact that there are more opportunities in key worker roles like nursing, social work, and of course, therapy, i think everybody feels they need a bit of therapy and tlc. Self employment has improved big time....What i love even more though is when you do look at someone and say "i'm self employed," they dont look at you like your a martian just landed from the planet Zennigan, neither do they look at you as though your the laziest bumm on Earth. It takes a lot of dedication to go into self employment, before you actually start making any money you get the looks that people give you as if to say, "stop lying, you've got no dreams." Then there's also the monologue they've given themselves in the mirror because some may be too scared to go into self employment, if you have enough capital you cant do it.
Your idea isn't original enough the industry is oversaturated.
Do you really expect to make money from that?....Did you expect to make money ever.  Yes the fabric of our fictional lives have been cast aside. People are now too stressed to even pretend, but lets focus on the fact that there is room to reinvent ourselves and there's room for progress.