The importance of knowing who you are

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When people are convinced with trying to convince you that your ugly or flawed in some way, it's because that's how they feel deep down inside. Tearing you down makes them feel better about themselves but not for long because were only human and our rightful place is to ascend. In the workplace people become the target of Office bullies, the Playground, even in simple routines such as going to and from the local retail store, yet we have to realise, which i started to, those people will learn tha comparing themselves to you, and competing with you will bring their self esteem nowhere. In fact they will become doubly insecure, and others around them will be slightly turned off by this compulsive need to put the magnifing glass or measuring tape up to the two lives. Once upon a time i would find myself adjusting changing certain things about myself about my life to accomodate other peoples inferiority complexes, and as i would change and adjust it never fit quite right. I soon began to realise those people were never happy because they were miserable within themselves. Misery likes company, dont let other people define who you are. They are unhappy within themselves let them fix them and let you, build you. Love yourself and build yourself confidence. It is priceless.

The importance of keeping promises

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If you are someone who breaks promises easily, you will lose more than a few offered words. You will lose the faith of the people who trust you. Your words will be air to them until it reaches a point where. You have to beg your promises, people will only keep faith for so long.

Mean what you say. There's an old saying, 'promises are meant to be broken' if that's the case, then doesn't that mean secrets are meant to be shared? What are both things founded upon? Trust. Faith. Belief.  Many of us have heard the story of the boy who cried wolf. Some say it was a young sheep boy, others tell the story of a local towns boy, who lied so often that when a wolf finally appeared not a single soul actually believed he was under attack. How does this relate to promises? Trust. His white lies had meant those around him had lost faith in him, and the foundation of trust had been broken.

Promises are easily broken, so is trust. The smart thing to do is to say " i'm not making any promises, but ill do my best." or " I cant guarantee it, but i will do my best." Keep your faith in yourself and keep their faith in you. It is priceless when the people around you believe in you and trust your word. When you keep a promise you are saying invest in me, you can trust me, i am reliable. When you break several promises you are saying.......are you sure about that?

Dating Disasters: How to deal with cruel rejection

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Dealing with rejection/being snubbed/ridiculed by someone who you thought liked you can be a nightmare. You go back and forth through all the woven strands, their body language said this, it looked like they wanted to be near you, your head seemed to screech with the idea that maybe this guy could be the guy.....go for it....go for it.....splat.

first move in your own personal game of chess, let it go: Some things aren't meant for you. It may not seem so now, but the universe is trying to teach you a lesson rather than pro-longing the pain. You've been saved hours, weeks, months, possibly years. There are people now trapped in the wrong kind of relationship, because nobody had the heart to say no to them. That 'no' has saved you, from being led on, wasting time that could be well spent on your progress, on something as basic as pining or analysing.

There are loads of celebrities today, absolute stunners, who were actually turned down. The way someone rejects you also says a lot about their character. It speaks in volumes all the things they kept covered. For example someone who seemed shy, or quiet, might actually be a total jerk. Someone who seemed nice and kind, could even be quite villainous. If you take a risk on someone and they decide that now they are in a position of power, they will blast your nervous vulnerability all over the place with megaphone arrogance, then you know this is the real person.

You haven't missed out on much.Rejection, ridicule,snobbery, in time you will get over it, also you will find a partner who has better character. Sometimes we debate with ourselves, dragging out the agony. Let it go, it's done, and you have been saved a most costly plight. This does not me those same troubled feelings wont pop up, the hurt, anger, annoyance, feelings of rejection, ride them out. They will disappear with time.

Sometimes the most valuable things we learn is the lesson, and that is priceless. Take the lesson and use it.

Why thinking like a beagle could make you a billionaire

" It just doesn't make sense,"
"but I've seen it work before," you defend. Then you hear the dreaded line. For some it's haven't you got anything better to do, others have another idea neatly pushed in front of them, along with a job application form. They get told strategic stories about how 'settled' and how 'well' a sibling, or a friend is doing in another line of work. Respect echoes through the room, and they shrink with embarassment at having dared to produce their idea in the first place. They then learn to keep their ideas to themselves, lest their reminded about how badly they failed at something else.

Everything you see today was based upon someone else just like you having an 'idea.' They didn't let words strangle them, or other people make them feel inadequate enough to believe they couldn't accomplish what they made their mind up to do. They knew, how precious is. How easily it can evolve and change the lives of those around them. Toilet roll, shoes, cups,cutlery,beds, all necessary things now, but once upon a time they were simply ideas. Messy little ideas that needed to be re designed, reworked, edited, shaped in order to become what they are now.

When you have an idea do not be naieve enough to believe everybody will instantly fall to their hands and knees. Do not be deluded enough to think it will make you an instant millionaire. Care enough to sniff it out and see where it takes you. Be like the beagle.

Beagles are the most curious dogs on earth, my beagle to be precise is much more than your average character. If she picks up a scent, she'll sniff it out until she's leading you and not the other way around.  She has a hunger to find out exactly what the scent is.

Sniff out your idea, it is a scent worth chasing. Ideas have made people leave the scrap heap and become millionaires, billionaires even. From zero to deniro, they call it. In every life there's always someone that talks us out of risks, because they were too terrified to take risks themselves. If its not illegal, damaging to someone's life, sadistically cruel, then it's an idea worth sniffing out.