How to not like a looser

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How can you tell if a guy likes you? Let me tell you a story. Once a girl liked a guy, all the body language signs told her he was interested in her too, the staring, watching, bumping into, quizzing about. Upon rushing and diving in head first, not only did she realise painfully so the guy wasn't interested, she also had to put up with the 'I know you like me, I don't find you vaguely attractive avoidance dance.' That included a side platter of surplus ridicule, and consistent humiliation.

Here is something we need to embrace. If someone likes you you'll notice key things. They want to spend time with you, get to know you, make sure you know they were interested so there's no possibility of another guy getting his hands on you. They will make a conscious effort to make it clear to a world of onlookers, I desire this, I want this. Of course there is some lee way with the shy guy, or shy personality. They may do strange things like follow you like a shadow one second, then nervously cross the street when they see you the next. Or when asked if they like you, anxiously blurting out they don't, yet you see them watching or staring at you from the corner of their eye, and consistently happening to bump into you to the point where it becomes as obvious as your surname . Keep key things in mind, only time will tell, and fools rush in. Allow them the opportunity to express what their feeling if you sense it's hard for them to get it out. Just remember there's someone finding it difficult, then there's playing hard to get, then there is playing not to get. There are people who may not especially like you, but the emotional vampire in them craves the attention your giving them. Some of us are risk takers and go getters who don't fear rejection. If you are, and determined to make a bold step, make sure your stepping towards the right person. Otherwise you could find yourself being carted off in one of life's wheelchairs. Pick someone with positive character traits. Someone you will respect, and who will respect you.

Healing from humiliation

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How do you not care when someone is trying to humiliate you? You realise the agenda behind it. Why are you significant enough to discuss? Parrot about, become a hot topic. Why do you even vaguely matter? For some reason, you do to them. Despite all the people who are better qualified, better looking, more confident, this person has decided you are their biggest competition. Well let them hate. Hsaters tell us, we are doing something right. They hate because there is something you have that their desperate to get a hold of. Maybe it's a quality, a strength, maybe it's a lot of attention. Whatever it is. Someone very insecure indeed has decided to put you on a pedastal and then topple it.Very, very, sad. Stay in your own lane. Oh my gosh. The  mistake i made once was indulging a negative person with negativity of my own. I chose to be defiant. Argue and argue and argue back....until i realised too late, it was a lot of wasted time. The time i'd wasted moaning, and whining about this person's poor behaviour was making me look like the hater. Step back. Disengage. Dont be dragged into the whirlpool of a very negative person's toilet drain chi, step away.  Decide within yourself that you are better than that, your time is valuable,and you wont be made to feel small.