Potential and the belief

They cannot see what you see, hear what you hear, feel what you feel, it is the magic of vision. It is the taste you have for adventure, the way the mind sculpts, and creates your route, dissolving other avenues that lead nowhere. You are not trapped as you think you are . You are not locked away in a colourless sky, you are on a path that will lead you to glory, a path that will set you free. Your strides are liquid as you release the burden of other peoples expectations, becoming a self you value and a self you love. Believe in your potential. 

To the victor goes the spoils?

It makes sense to want to dwell, we live in a world where people don't always play fair. They cheat. They use certain tactics to gain access to the information you have, to empower themselves and yet so they win? Not really. victory is a mindset. You are a Victor when you learn the art of happiness, some people will never be happy in this lifetime. It is a choice they make consistently with the actions they take. Greed, cruelty, envy , and when the light grows dim, they crawl their way back to you hoping you'll welcome them into your bosom. We are a product of the choices we make, we are a fragmented self, distorted self, damaged self, at times a broken self, yet in this lifetime, be an honest self. Be true to the reflection you see, do not be supported by other people's fears and other people's failures. It makes sense to dwell, yet we live in a world where dwelling is not the key to the answers you seek.

Rivers of change: Spirit is listening

Real wisdom, intelligence should leave an imprint. When you communicate you want to be remembered for not just how expansive your vocabulary is, but the density of the words impacting the soul of the listener. I was thinking today about greatness and the people we listen too, not the know it all's, but those who have a snippet of our experiences. Those who can connect. Talk is cheap because time is so expensive and yet, it is a priceless thing some conversations. We wish we could rewind back in time and have them all over again, they are like song in our eardrums. We like the company of the person talking and the advice they give. The right conversation can sell a book, a brand, an album, an individual, so speak to yourself. Speak to all the bruised areas of your soul that cannot be cleansed by mild conversation. Talk to self esteem, self love, motivation fighting spirit,challenge denial. Speak to growth, and just keep on talking, spirit is listening, so you must speak. Speak rivers of positive productive change.

Meditations of a cooling mind

Youre Not my Mother

My mother is beautiful
warm and kind
blessed in Spirit
Righteous in mind
A gem in the eye
She sparkles
For us,
and the none of us
that are those
Who try to take her place
Understand
you dont have her face
have her smile and have her touch
My mother
is far too much
A royal one
the world must see
That's why
you have
So much
Envy
This is my mother
Her home is her sight
An  immitator
has no right.

Weak moments are allowed

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We all have our weak moments, what's even more pathetic, are the people who use your weak moments to validate their lack of self esteem. Your destruction is how they get their kicks, and if they break you, they believe they will be happy. Sadly people like this show themselves for what they are, the reveal the pieces that are them, the broken images, the jigsaw of a shattered reflection, they cant bare to look at. The reality is they invite destruction into their own lives, they reveal themselves to those around. The wallpaper cracks are very visible. Here's a reality cheque sometimes we need to cash, if someone invests that much time in breaking your spirit, in putting you down, they must be pretty damaged inside. No matter how small they make you feel, remember you must be pretty important for them to invest so much time in tearing you down. Just remember, our weak moments, our silly moments, vulnerable, embarassing, even our humiliation is all worth it, because we can utilise it as a strength and become something greater. Let other people judge you, they too will be judged.

Taunting someone else's toxic spirit

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Sometimes people will try and tear down your spirit, they will break you down, spread rumours in an attempt to make you feel inadequate. It is important to always remember who you are because people often tear us down, when their dealing with their own insecurities also. I always say know who you are, when we don't is when we find ourselves in the most trouble. Love yourself and don't let others destroy your spirit, build yourself up. Use books, music, watch things that motivate you, make plans and set new goals for yourself. You can do anything you set your mind too.

Warrior spirit

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A warrior spirit
Cannot be broken still,
We fight 
With discipline
We fight with will
Jumping hurdles of the mind
Our fears
We leave
Like Ghosts behind
As we inch towards 
The ledge 
Glaring at an ocean 
Where a river is greedy 
With dreams.
We gaze up at the sun
And we say
A warrior spirit
Cannot be broken still

Red ebony 

Eating self education

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The conflict of miseducation leads us to believe we are less than we are. You are more powerful than you know, it is important to look within. Your spirit cannot be broken. Battered or beat. It is simple, refuse to say no to your dreams. Refuse to allow others to tear you down or break your spirit, because the world is full of people who try. If you find yourself attracting toxic people , keep your distance. Toxic people are contaminated, they spread poison, and it is important to build yourself up to Epic proportions. Have your vision in sight and keep moving forward , keep striving toward the change you need, and don't let anyone tear you down.  Or steal your joy. Sometimes people who are unhappy within themselves, are blood thirsty, and hungry to see you fall appart. It makes them feel better about themselves, it makes them feel like they have something in common with other people, Focus on building yourself up, when others are working so diligently to tear you down. I say it time and again, know who you are.

How to get over a bad breakup

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Bad breakups suck, especially when your crossing the road when you see each other, or you cant bare to be in the same room as each other. Maybe you have some nasty memories that pop up when you think about that person, or the Chinese whispers about the vile comments he's making about you or family members.

It could be you have fond memories of your best friend stroke lover. Memories can be sporadic like that. Your doing your washing and you remember their laugh, your watching tv and you see their favourite show or something they might like, someone mentions their favourite drink or you walk past their favourite shop, and you feel as though the universe is trying to crucify you. Space. The space you needed was fine until it starts to hurt, or even throb like an invisible wound. Yet remember it was a breakup for one key reason. It didn't work. The function of your relationship to engrosse each others happiness is defaulted. Like a robot that's gone dead. Somewhere in all of this you stopped understanding each other, and decided your flaws weren't cute any longer but explosive. 

Take the space , chug the Ben and jerries ice cream, shop till you drop , party with friends, talk about your feelings, read a book, take on a new project, dream, take on a new goal and focus on move forward. It will be difficult. Healing takes time, yet it's something you must do.

Breakups are difficult to get through. The healing process can be long and exhausting. You may find yourself crying in street corners, on buses, in cars when you drive, as you are circled by friends. Just remember you are already over it. When someone is not right for you, they are not right for you. When someone has broken your trust or damaged your spirit, you need time to build your confidence backup again, and you need to allow a new love into your life with time. You must heal yourself. Cleanse yourself, and try not to punish yourself for making a bad choice. It's not the mistakes we make that define us but how we bounce back from them. 

The pretty parade (how to be happy?)

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The Pretty woman soundtrack is trending at the moment, maybe it's the nostalgia of valentines day gone, bringing the romantic back in all of us. That wish fulfillment to find love and have someone validate you not for what you are, but who you are, that essence. Most women love the film. The character was feisty, bubbly, funny, warm, loving, endearing, insecure at times, we all have those elements of our personality, and Julia Roberts with that dynamite figure and dynamic smile put the Kapow in the Movie along with Richard Gere's seductive gentleman charms. Yet how do women respond to an attractive female in general? It's an interesting debatable topic.With pretty celebrity women we assume that they have uber self esteem because they are often worshipped and idolised in the media. Wether their Russian women, Chinese women, Any woman in general, as soon as they get the hottest women or hottest woman tag we nstantly think, that's it, your life is made, when actually i think life may be a bit more complex than that. People often forget the ultimate goal in living, it's lost in what i call, the pretty parade.We endorse our insecurities in all these superficial things like makeup, skincare products, jobs we hate to acquire more money to buy more stuff, to validate ourselves in order to show look we have all these things we must be happy. Just because someone has all those things doesn't mean that they are.

 In the act of purchasing, and acquiring new things we feel uplifted for the minute because capitalism does that. It's a marketing campaign to brainwash you into believing if you acquire all these goods and have all these things you'll be happier than your counterparts? Competitors?Yet there are some people who have hardly amassed barely a million and their happy because their greatful for the small things. And their not participating in the pretty parade. It's not so much about show and tell, or show and convince the world, they havent got the time their too busy living their lives. Running the greatest lesson my mother teaches everyday, " their own race" so their happy within themselves.

Initially my argument was going to be that as an attractive woman you should be allowed to celebrate your strengths and boombox them from the top of the roofs. Yet upon speaking to others i realise self confidence is not about boasting. It's not about boom boxing. It's a quietness that comes from within it has that Ninja stealth that get's you from ground zero to level up. I was reading a blog this morning called the housewife down under and the writer complained of being snobbed and treated badly because she was attractive, but someone i know raised a fair point. Sometimes it's an energy we pick up from people that makes us distance ourselves from them. We make assumptions, and if someone is nice and their open, and their willing to let the world in and take risks and be positive, they can crucify those negative assumptions. If you find yourself coming across people who are nasty and negative because they believe you are a threat to them, those are not people you want to associate with. What they've done to you, they would have done it to other people. For key reason's they are scared and they are unhappy, yet someone precious to me said you don't need to take that within you. You don't need to let that be part of you or enter you, let that inhabbit their spirit. People like that have been denied a lot, they have a chip on their shoulder.  We've all been like those people or experienced those people it's never fun. What should be is our lives. There are people who are happy on less, joyous on less, laugh often, and laugh loudly on less than the percieved ideals of what you should have to be happy, and who you should be to be happy.


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labelling the liar:How to deal with someone's lies

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Liars know the secrets buried within their own hearts. No matter what they speak, deep down they know that they are being dishonest and there is an anger that comes with that. Anger that they weren't brave enough to tell the truth and face the consequences, especially if beneath it all lurks a good spirit. This would put them in a state of internal conflict. How do we define good? People who go to church ? Eat all their vegetables? Pay their mum's rent and bills? A good person will not suffer anyone their own personal consequences. They won't creep out whilst some other person deals with the consequences, or creep in secret hoping they won't have to bump into the person they've disappointed.

Outside of priests and the pope everybody tells lies. Maybe it's little white lies, or straight up denials. If your in the presence of someone who is a compulsive liar, it's time to move unto steadier ground. Someone you can trust is not decietful, and doesn't lie at the cost of someone else's reputation or theirs.

Liar is a label. Sometimes people are scared, and they lie. Insecure..and they lie, Some lie to protect the ones they love, others lie because it just comes easily. Be honest, if you know someone close to you is lying, or being dishonest, let them know you are aware of their dishonesty, and you will not condemn them for having the courage to speak up and tell the truth.

Simply put, the truth will set them free. If they continue with their lies you have to decide how much of their stories or fables your willing to put up with. Tell them where you stand on lies, set those boundaries, and make them clear. Explain that you are understanding, believe in compromise, but will not be lied to as if you were a fool. You are no fool.

Anger: How to deal with narcissistic people

Anger is defective when dealing with  nasty narcissistic people. You may think sparking yourself up with fury, being the one person that will take them on makes you the hero. Sadly sometimes by default we find ourselves turning into that which we despise the most. Push down on your clutch, that is not your destination. Maybe youre the type of individual that believes if i just show this person the error of their ways, they learn they cant do cruel things to decent people, they'll change. Change is a choice that comes from within. Let their own vicious spirit disempower them. Focus on running your race. If you become the target of their abuse, or malice, make yourself like teflon with your goals,passion, and eagle eyes on your own life and ambitions.If you can make a positive change in your own life, you can make a positive change in the lives of those worthy enough to deserve your attentions. Everybody has insecurities and weak people especially narcissistic strategist will go out of their way to make you look weak so they can feel strong. That momentary high lasts only for a minute, in private these people are often bought crashing down with their own reality. The holes, gaps, and longings they have. The envy they feel for you and others is like an acid in their throat. In no way must you allow their energy to tie up with yours. In no way must you allow yourself to be plagued, condemn and emotionally whipped, by the inferiority complex which rests perched on their shoulder, like a parrot in their ear. You are worth ten of them, and they know it. Anger leads to blind strategy, it's as if your crutches have been whipped away from you, and there you are stumbling on the pavement. Walk tall, with your head up, as though it were touching the moon. You are worth ten of them......you need to remember because everytime they wind you up, or you hear something nasty they've done to someone else, you'll feel that shock of anger, and you'll need to co ax yourself off that ledge.

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Ditching the dating Blame game

Unintelligent Cringe worthy So not my type, Jerk....as I scribbled another list of why I should move on from the wrong guy, feelings of pain and bitterness etched in my heart, I realised something. I could spend a lifetime pointing the finger and insulting the guys I'd made the mistake of showing affections, or I could take responsibility for the poor choices I was making. I chose them. Despite knowing in my spirit these guys weren't for me, they were not guys who would respect me because they didn't especially have much respect for themselves. Life was teaching me a lesson. I could either rot where I was and end up bitter and twisted or embrace a key message, there was a lesson to learn here. Value yourself, respect who you are, and celebrate the positive choices you've made within your life. This is your life and no one else's.

You are bound to make mistakes.There is no such thing as an immaculate human being. We are all deliciously flawed.The importance of mistakes are the potent lessons we learn from them.I learned to choose who i give my time, attentions,affections too more wisely.I learned to pay more attention to character, rather than a sweet tongue, or some pretty eyes. Judge judy once said beauty fades but dumb is forever.Translated? Prize yourself.It's not ego or arrogance, it's a message that speaks volumes, you want my respect? EARN IT.Every so often you'll make a bad choice, take responsibility for it and move on. image from the texas tribune