Amber: Signs that he likes you, but is simply dragging his feet

First question: Why is he dragging his feet? If the man of your dreams is giving you lingering stares, going out of his way to call you, text you, talk to you, and of course my favourite happening to bump you by accident....uhhhhmm. Yum yum, red ebony loves sensual flirtations.


If he's always asking you to spend time together, laughing at jokes you crack that makes the person beside you two push puzzled eyebrows together, if he's not that obvious but as a lady you sense some kind of sexual tension, uhhmm. Go amber, but don't starve. Simply put there are other things that women feel interfere with a potential partnership. Shyness is one.As endearing as that shy guy with the hot chocolate baritone, and those sensual eyes might be, the consistent overwhelming nerves begins to frustrate. Drop hints if you must do flirt with compliments, but whatever you do, DONT BEGDATE!!Begging date is anything from ripping your knickers off, and going I WANT IT RIGHT NOW!! To something as obsessive as calling till the shrill ring of the phone becomes torture for him and those close to him. If he has a partner and is feeling conflicted about having feelings for two women...great counselling session love but you need not to.



He needs to make a choice. Whatever his choice, it shouldn't be that he was forced to or extreme emotional blackmail was used like a gun with a bullet. He should want you, and be willing to invest in a healthy relationship. If the reason you're scenario is amber is simply because he is ashamed to be identified as your partner, or can be all loved up when no one else is there. Give him the ultimate red light. There's nothing worse than that guy, the coward.

Who likes you in secret, wants all your attentions, affections, and time then goes cold if others see him with you, or you suddenly feel rushed and hidden the way someone would hide a dirty rag cloth if visitors came over. To explain this, in case we find ourselves in this situation as i promise you it can happen to the best and the worst of us...that's a red light. People hide things, not just that their ashamed of, but which they think will reflect badly on them. I once fell for a guy who'd actually fallen for me first....so long as no one else was looking and no one else was around. When an attempt was taken to go a tiny bit public with these feelings,he became the incredible invisible man. Yes sireee, i didn't see him for ages. Whilst others ridiculed and attempted to bring me down, (jealous, insecure women) not only was this fool too stupid to see their agenda, he also allowed them to dictate to him who he can like, and feel passion for. It became instantly clear to me how much of a coward he really was. When he finally became the visible man again, i became the dating social butterfly. He was replaced with such ease and speed, you'd think i was a millionaire buying a bottle of milk. If you sense someone likes you and their dragging their feet, remember that there are other options. You don't need to wait around forever. If you wait around forever you're sending the message, that they can take the piss forever. Men don't just appreciate a challenge, they also respect a woman who knows her own worth.Don't let anybody drag their feet when it comes to you. This isn't a job opportunity or a loan, this is a woman that has real growth, companionship, understanding, love, and passion to share. You can be the woman that will add to his happiness, what you dont want to be is the woman that has to shove it down his throat. Life doesn't have to be that complicated.

I love DEEEEEEEEEES'REEE :AWESOME MUSIC, GOOOOOORGEOUS WOMAN

S.O.S music for when you hate your job

This idea i got from another site called http://www.pastemagazine.com/blogs/lists/2011/10/10-great-songs-about-hating-your-job.html anyway they had the list, but i've tried to add some videos. Who doesn't want to feel as though an audience of highly paid, influential musicians know what it feels like to be under paid and undervalued.



This version is performed by Joshua James, an amazing artist....and hot to boot


The original custom concern


Bare naked ladies, Pinch me


This song i love it's from the office space soundtrack, its by canibus and Bizmarkee


Black flag, i've had it

Nobody says it like The smiths:....Hillarious Songs

.....in my life why do i smile, at people i would rather kick in the eyyyyyeeeeeeee....Their lyrics are so brilliant. I can imagine someone playing this during their lunch hour after getting the boss his coffee, and discussing his holiday plans with him.

For The ultimate stubborn breakup song

How many women would love an ex whose acted like a complete jerk, to grovel and sing this song? Or maybe a crush whose acted cruelly to get down on his knees, and......Go west!!!!!

This advert is hillarious: Funny Funny funny

Goooood vibes awesome song: Mark Wahlberg how did you do it?

Positive energy

realisation by sea fairy



Positive energy,
Fill this place
Fill this time
and fill this space
Creative energy,
Come to me,
Come to me,
So i can see,
Open my eyes,
and Open my sight,
Make my vision,
Clear in sight

Lets be stubbornly positive this year people,
Life will throw us some knocks,
But we have that mental armour
Let's empower ourselves this year
Lets be strength, visions, and completed goals.
Happiness is the answer,
Lets make ourselves happy

The law of giving and recieving

The circulation law of prosperity (awesome vid) Randy Gage u rock!!

The vacuum law of prosperity

Billion dollar bank account (Understanding wealth consciousness)

Joel Osteen Knowing what to ignore (Amazing vid)

Joel Osteen Having The right Perspective (Excellent)

How to master your mind (Keep going people)

The most inspiring video ever!!!!!This video is something spectacular

How to use hope and desire as leverage for success

infinity by vrxx


Key questions are always a great way to start. What do i want? Where do i see myself. Whom do i see myself becoming. Describe that image verbally, now hold unto a visualisation, as you add more detail to the image you have mentally placed before you. What car are you driving? What house are you living in, How do you feel? Now write a list of 50 steps on paper how do you get there? Do your research, what have other people done? How did they accomplish the goal you want? Read their interviews, their autobiographies if you can.Listen to Webinars online, create a list of 100 seminars you could visit to learn more information in relation to your goal. Networking is key. If your idea, product, or goal were to be successful what sort of marketing campaigns would you run? Which books would you read? Who would you speak to? And who could you help in the process. Remember the universe is all about reciprocity. Now keep visualising the success of those goals you have in place. Exercise often to keep yourself in a positive frame of mind, and speak positivity to your ambitions. Remind yourself why your product, idea, or goal will work. Remind yourself, why you can do this, and take action as consistently as you can. Even if it's just little steps. Take them. Such as a phonecall, an email, visiting someone that your product or idea may be of use to. Have that image of faith and hope as leverage. Even if you go as far as printing out a giant picture of the thing you crave the most do it. Ensure you have absolute faith, absolute belief, if you find yourself lacking, youtube and any other video network is great for the inspiration you require.

How to overcome fear of Failure and beat procrastination, Amazing video(How to overcome laziness)

Throw yourself into the process. Wether it rains, sleets, snow, your exhausted, your friends just called to harp on about her life. Take action. Use exercise as an example. For example one would think an individual whose trying to make a million pounds is a different story to a fat person whose trying to lose weight and tone their abs, or an athlete. Wrong. It's the same process of taking action and consistent discipline, focus, reminding yourself you have something to accomplish. Most athletes despite being exhausted, dragging their feet at times, and having to endure intense physical and emotional pain, they go back for round two, three, two hundred and ten they just keep going.Knowledge is power they research the best way to get the best outcomes. That means knowing all the right buttons to push and the places to prod then. Extending beyond their usual call of duty.Take a step towards your goal every single day.Watch the video, it's amazing!!!!!

Mastering Faith: The universe and her dreams

Recently i set myself a goal. It was one of those goals that would seem absolutely ridiculous to everybody else, yet to me, writer, photographer, this curious ambition of mine represented something. Everyone gets dreams that either warn them or inspire them to proceed with a task, that as far fetched as it may seem, it is in fact possible. In my family some members have the gift of translating a dream, or understanding what the universe is trying to tell them.



When i was younger, really young twice as gutsy as i am now. There was a guy in my primary school, his name was Daniel. He was the fastest kid, the most popular, and by far one of the nicest looking. Daniel was known for being like a bullet out of a gun. I come from a very athletic family, and around that time i loved a good race, and a damn good challenge. Nobody had beaten Daniel ever. His best friend was a guy named Jerome, he was actually quicker than Daniel, but ofcourse Daniel got all the publicity. I was a year or two younger than them, and around that time a senior is literally a god to you. You never speak to a god. I asked Daniel and Jerome for a race, i just knew that i could beat him, it was something in my spirit that made me believe it was possible. I just knew. Lo and behold i beat Daniel, and i was the first person to do it.



I've seen Daniel once in twenty years. Recently when i began making plans for a new project, i had a dream about Daniel. He was serving me something over a counter, it was a familiar scenario like in a kitchen.This is a guy i rarely ever see. Two days later, i saw him, he was walking in the high street, and i was actually dazed enough to say, "Hey i had a dream about you. " He smiled. I explained the dream to him. But i thought of what meeting him represented to me. Confidence, possibility and a faith in self, an assurance that you just feel. I don't actually believe in coincidences, but i believe someone can travel very far, with an abundance of guts and courage.

Steve Jobs rules of Success: Awesome video

Leadership is all about perseverance. Understanding who you are and what you have to do. Remembering that it won't always be fun. You wont always experience that high from it, but so long as your trying. Pushing yourself as far as you believe you can go, and extending yourself beyond. Sometimes it will be so painful, people will ask you what your doing. They'll say "Hey Buddy things don't seem to be working out for you. We can't see it." Other people are not supposed to see it, you are. Out of that pain, that hunger, that vision, is progress. I've always believed in the physical realm, what we can see, and the spiritual realm, the workings of the universe we cannot see. In the physical realm nothing may appear to be happening, yet sometimes when we sleep, those ideas, those seeds, those gems planted in our subconscious, with much persistence, and much consistency, are the difference between ultimate success and ultimate failure. The failures that come along the way, are part of the trial and error success, manufacture.

Michel Jordan: Great Leadership

Motivation in Spades: Will Smith, king of the right information

Picking the right people to help build up your dreams

If you let insecure people build you up, there will be moments when you feel as though your touching the clouds, and when reality hits, you'll realise you haven't even left the ground and you are barely touching the surface. Insecure toxic people are for example the friend who tells you your amazing in private, yet when any positive news happens to you, she's suddenly not taking your calls anymore, or becomes emotionally unavailable. The jealous friend who decides to tear you down publicly whenever she senses your getting more attention than her.Seriously? No matter how nice these people appear to be from time to time.



If you are around someone you feel you have to walk on tiptoe with, whenever something positive is taking place in your life, protect your goals and ambitions so when you do accomplish them it's too late for that person to do the damage inside out. It takes a lot of faith to accomplish something unusual, unpredictable and spectacular.You don't need the wrong sort of people poking and prodding at your self esteem as your trying to build yourself up. You need that strength of conviction, that belief in yourself. Don't be fooled that it is always rock solid, it can be fragile, and if you don't respect it, and you don't respect yourself enough it can collapse. You can find yourself on the wrong journey on the wrong route.

Shake what your mama gave ya: How to love yourself

by roxanac

Feel free to shake what your mama gave ya. People will tell you, your not pretty enough, not attractive enough, not intelligent enough, not successful enough. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. We are not put here on Earth to conform to a consensus appeal. We are put here, to grow, to expand to celebrate exactly who we are. To inspire, to set ablaze, the world we live in. With passion, joy, a hunger to share, and a craving for knowledge. The person who defined you as flawed, how many flaws have you spotted in them. I bet if you looked closely enough, you would see millions. Guess what? You've got more interesting things to look at, remind yourself, "You've got stuff to do."

Your a busy little bee, and with the time you've got, you'll use it to empower yourself and inspire those around you.People will not always give you the high five you need. You could be the most amazing person on Earth. Why do i always say this line? Because i've lived it. Growing up i always wanted to be liked,sometimes i'd go beyond the call of duty just to prove that i'm likeable, that i'm worthy. I would exaggerate my niceness to the point where i began to resent myself for my people pleasing. I would become frustrated when after all my efforts, someone would pick some random reason not to like me. It wasn't for them to like me, to appreciate me, to love me even, I had to love myself. You have to celebrate who you are. Write that list of good things bout yourself, make it dazzle as a diamond. Read it first thing every morning when you get up, and read it before you go to bed. It will have a powerful impact on your subconscious, along with exercise, a healthy diet, and some time spent with real positive people.

Luv This: Motivation Pain is temporary

Remember the Titans:Motivational speech

Inspirational movie speeches:

Don't ever let someone tell you you cant do something. As much as i'm not a fan of Mel Gibson any more. That speech in brave heart was so moving.

When Failure turns into success

WHEN STUBBORNESS IS A GOOD THING!!

Inspiration from a millionaire: How to be a millionaire Tom Pace style

This is truely inspirational. Life isn't about those who judge from the sidelines, it's about those people who have the guts to take action and do something different.

How to stay positive during tough times

Free spirit by zindy

I don't care what any numpty or know it all says. Staying positive consistently is one of the hardest things to do. You program your mind to be fierce,you cement it in a coat of positive thoughts and beliefs, then rattle and shake, the universe creeps in turning you into an emotional casualty.

What do you do? You mentally fight your demons the way you'd battle a school yard bully. Negative thoughts are damaging, they slow you down, douse you in doubt and intensely contaminate the process, you need to stay positive to keep yourself going otherwise you weaken your steel, and you loose momentum.A positive mindset will save your life.


Exercise is key to a positive mindset. Exercise doesn't just give you that incredible body. It strengthens the mind. It teaches you discipline, focus, drive and consistency. After a good routine and sweating it out, your body feels amazing, and your mind is revved up and rearing to go.

Write a letter to yourself as if you were your own best friend, saying all the fantastic things you are and you've accomplished. What are your skills, goals , and ambitions? How do you believe you can make a change in this world? What is your destination? How do you plan to get there, write a step by step proposal for yourself so it seems more real.

Spend less time condemning yourself and more time congratulating yourself for the positive things you do, even if you don't get the reaction required. Recently i wrote a letter of apology to someone. This person was associated with someone who is both mean spirited and vile. I wrote this apology because i'd done something, despite all the other things i'd done, this one thing appeared to had hurt his feelings. I saw him and instead of being polite ran in because i was ashamed of the state of my hair, i felt guilty for weeks. I wrote a note of apology to him, and instead of appreciating it for what it was. He used it in attempt to gain more points and favour, to ridicule, and try and humiliate me. I had done the right thing, but for the wrong person. At the time i felt secretly gutted.

We will not always recieve a perfect outcome. People wont always act in a way that we respect, or show a positive side. Yet when we have those gems, those moments of childlike innocence, we shouldn't bully ourselves for thinking with a kind and open heart.

Talk to a real best friend, family members or maybe even someone professional,they may understand how your feeling.

Have your list of goals, set about accomplishing them and ticking them off day by day.An accomplishment or an achievement help us validate ourselve. It gives us a sense of purpose, and everytime we hit the nail on the head, we feel a sense of pride. It doesn't have to be huge things, remember the little things build up the big picture.

Learn to forgive yourself, and stop replicating negative self talk. What do you say about yourself when no one's around. When there's no potential enemies so you don't have to keep the armour on. In the quiet of the night, in front of that cracked bathroom mirror. How about i can do anything i put my mind to? How about i will find a way to get through this, the universe will give me the answers i need. How about? I can. It is possible, life is trial and error.

Listen to the right music. Things that inspire and bring out the creativity in you, read the right books, books that will both motivate and inspire.

Treat yourself to humour days. Days where you can just sit in, relax and
watch comedies.

Romance yourself to a seductive bubble bath, with spa salt and scented oils. Book a massage for yourself you deserve a treat. Celebrate who you are, what you've achieved, and make a promise to accomplish something new every year, or experience an adventure and explore.

AAAAAAAWWWWEEEEESOOOOME:Eagle Eye Cherry: Save tonight

Insanity in Business

By Benheine


It's madness they tell you. Yet your gut tells you something completely different. You have all the cards in place somehow there is a missing link. There is also information out there to find it. I often encourage people that speak to me about a problem in business, or an idea not clicking in place. To research, and research thoroughly.
If you look hard enough there is a book, or an article, a research study or a contact that can translate all your business hieroglyphics. The right information can direct you towards a gap in the market and an opportunity untapped. We dont do this because we've been informed of information overload, or ask of data. The only way knowledge is abused, is when information is not put into action. There are people who produce a truck load of data, and just sit on it not knowing they are sitting on a goldmine. This is often because they haven't taken the steps to use that information for a worthy cause. You are allowed to do the unpredictable, take a risk, and in faith make the difference you require.

Persistence and consistency

mountains by sh986

Persistence and consistency are the answer to any questions about progression your battling with.When the going gets tough, the tough get going.Tough people take action. Not just once, or twice, or three times, they replicate the actions they take in order for progression to take place.Fear can be paralysis.That is why we keep pushing, and keep moving forward with stealth and drive.Fear creeps in easily. It sneaks through the gates of an ambituos soul. We begin to question ourselves, we can become consumed by doubt. Can i really do this? Is it really worth it? Look how many people have failed before i have. Our eardrums hearken to the gossip of others failed attempts, people who have been left desolate and emotionally abandoned their ambitions.


They say winners never quit, and quitters never win. That's too square. Quitters get scared, paranoia sets in. Take a bite out of the sandwich one chunk ata time. Whatever your fighting for. It wont happen straight away, your allowed to slip into these sinewy moods of disappointment, yet like a black dress, slip right out of it again. During the process, we get lost in the external, someone we know may approach us in the street and have done extremely well. Sometimes we may tell them what we've accomplished and instead of giving us that praise we've been craving, there's a moment of puzzlement. Before they rebound into a mentally rehearsed "congrats, that's great for you." Do not glory hunt.


Some people need to see success to believe it, therefore, you have to believe it. Other people cannot believe in us, the way we should believe in ourselves, we need that faith to keep going. It's the fuel for the hardwork. It's the steering wheel that places a mercedes into it's perfect parking spot.

How to make money: Saving to loose money

How often do we clutch at our pockets, terrified to invest funds for a project to take off? Maybe it was to buy a book or pay for a seminar, maybe it was even to hire ourselves a mentor. The media has run amock with stories of recession, and titilating news of companies that are going bust. This feeds into our fear of loss, and poverty, so we clutch our pockets tighter. There is a universal rule. Knowledge activated is finance. You need to be in the know, and use the knowledge you've discovered to reach higher. When we struggle to take our business or project to the next level, there is no such thing as too much information. If you lack information , you lack the promise of growth. Simply having potential is not enough. An idea is simply that, an idea. It's like a plane without an engine. You need to ask the right questions, read the right books, and contact the right person for it to take off the ground.



A few years ago i didn't have a dime to my name. Yet i wanted to start up a photography company. I was warned against it. I read articles that 'intellectually' informed me, how bad an industry the photography industry was. I read stories about people who started photography ventures and lost everything. I made the decision in my spirit, that life is not life without a little trial and error. It's the mistakes we make that often enhance us, and make our senses more keen. I bought a digital slr camera with the little money i had. Since then despite many setbacks god had persisted on my behalf. I've done a shoot for the FA cup, the mcdonalds corporation, sainsburys, red pr company, and my mentor is currently muhhammed Ali's personal photographer.


If i had given into my fear, strangled my pockets for dear life, and compiled a list of whys, i would have lost out. Forget the WHY'S, how about the why nots? How about life's too short to not go for what you want full throttle. If you have a positive outcome in mind. With the help of friends and family i was able to accomplish these things, and of course the incredible motivational and advice books that inspired me along the way. Books that educated me, and encouraged that hungry drive.

Hell nooooo, motivational speaking

passion by Bagdadi


Life isn't a personal assault on you. She's not picking you out from the multitudes, and deciding, this person, this one person is who i'm going to tear to shreds. Sometimes it feels like that doesn't it? Sometimes you feel as though whilst your pulling yourself together, the universe is picking you appart. What do you do then? You fight the smart way. Equip yourself with the knowledge and the information you need to carry yourself to new heights. The darker it seems, the highest you must climb. You want to reach that mountain, to glare at the world from your throne. Our adversities define us. They strengthen our muscles, make our backs solid and inspire us to lift our heads higher.Keep your head up. Everyday whenever i feel the sadness creeping in, i ready my armour. Exercise to strengthen the body and the mind, i research into things i'm passionate about, as we all know knowledge is power and finance. Whatever hole you find yourself in, fight your way out of it. People often say there's nothing new under the sun, the same story goes for pain. Pain is recycled. Someone has experienced what you've experienced before, find them. Wether it's trawling through the internet, consuming a book, listening to the radio, or meeting them face to face. Their information is pivotal. Lack of information stagnates us, information in abundance, sets us free. Plug in your Mp3 player and listen to your favourite motivational speaker, get out your jotter pad and write as many questions about the problem at hand as possible.

What are the potential solutions? Are there any guides to dealing with this problem, be it financial or fitness, there is always someone out there who can help, and with zillions of people out there, there is someone out there who is likely to want to help. Say heeeell nooooo, this isn't the end for me, and get as much advice as you possibly can.

When the guy you thought you liked, is completely gutless

He knew what was going on, his mother knew what was going on. All it took were a few people to ridicule, insult and belittle me, and that was it for him. The same guy that kept parking in front of my house, loitering outside waiting for me to come home, slowing his car down to a crawl had suddenly disappeared off the face of the planet. I knew exactly what was going on. He was avoiding me because he was utterly and painfully gutless, a campaign for coward. Usually when i leave my house, he conveniently steps out of his, pretending to be fixing something, or taking something out. What a wakeup call, originally, i'd just shake my head when i saw him because in my spirit i'd thought to myself how can you let other people tell you who to talk to at the age of 30 something years old, that's weak.Our family had fallen out with his mother, the way most people in the neighbourhood had fallen out with his mother. One day randomly this passive aggressive, vindictive, manipulative woman with a jealous agenda, would suddenly write a letter of complaint. Rather than simply telling you what the problem is, she'll wait till she goes into her house, finds people she's familiar with and spread malicious gossip. That is her brand of behaviour. She never tells you what's wrong, or what you've done to offend her, what she does is suddenly become very competitive, unhealthily so.At first i was convinced it was all my imagination, i didn't say anything for months, as though i were harbouring a secret. I wondered wether i was reading too deep into things. Yet with time i began to sense that he really wanted to speak to me. When i'd first moved to my area, i'd given him my number and he'd called me on the phone.

I had other neighbours and none of them parked in front of my house like he did, i noticed there was always a world of space in front of his house when he was parking in front of my home.Yeah we were next door neighbours but parking in front of my house was a choice. My ex boyfriend used to park in front of my house everytime we had an argument because he wanted to get my attention. He was too nervous at the time to speak to me,so he'd park in front of my house with whatever vehicle he was driving this time. With this guy I'd think why are you parking in front of my house, instead of yours. I noticed he was shy, and found it hard making eye contact. I knew despite being banned from communicating with my family members, he'd approached my sister and nervously told her about moving up in the work environment, and a daughter on the way. I knew i wasn't imagining this because my sister who is class a at people observations, had told me that when she brought up my name, there's a softness in his eyes. Like the look you get when you have a crush on someone. I'm always the first to say a guy doesn't like me, or doesn't find me appealing, yet every woman knows this, that gut instinct you have, that sixth sense when you question is this my imagination, or could this person find me attractive.

It was a simple apology that brought his true character to light. Not being someone that celebrates valentines day, most of the time i have no idea when it is. I'd seen him a few weeks back, my hair had been a state, and my clothes a disaster. It's one of those times when you pray you don't see anyone. I'd seen him coming, and like you do, when you might begin to like someone. You become self conscious. I said "Oh shit," and ran for dear life. Also his mum had pissed me off a few days before. I came back out and he was still standing in front of his house. He hadn't gone in yet, and i'd put on my hat to cover my hideous hair. He looked hurt, as if he felt as though maybe i'd snobbed him. He looked hurt and furious. I didn't see him for weeks, and was riddled with guilt. I may not have been able to stand his mother, and his family members, but he'd always seemed like the nicest guy of the lot. I finally braved it not knowing it was valentines day. I hadn't seen his car around, so i put the apology on his sisters car, not knowing that he had changed cars.


I'd written and re written that apology at least ten times. I wanted him to know that i was sincere, and i was sorry he'd felt bad. I wanted to make him feel respected as he has a soft tone to his voice, and people often mistake that for unintelligence. My apology was ridiculed and so was i. I could hear his mother cackling vindictively, and the laughter carried into my room. I haven't seen him since then...i wonder why. If i did i'd be too disgusted to look at him. He knows that my family are not bad people, we've been nothing but polite and gracious to him in particular, yet he never speaks up, he never said anything. I know why his mother did what she did. The more ridiculous she made me look and sound, the more ashamed he would be of having an attraction to me around his brother and sister. I got the feeling she felt betrayed by the fact he found me attractive....clearly not attractive enough to defend. I don't know wether he said anything nasty as well, maybe to fit in, maybe just to be cruel, but everything i thought about him being a coward and gutless was spot on. It took a lot of humility to write that apology, especially to a woman who is a hypocrite and has no morals. I stayed at my sisters for a while because now i felt ashamed. How could i have liked someone that weak, that emotionally immatured. What was i thinking?

When i returned home his mother was in her garden and i thought heeeeell no. I marched right downstairs,and i called her exactly what i thought of her...JEALOUS.I was furious, i said loudly to her, "if you have anything to say about me and my family, then you say that to me. Because i wanna hear it." As is usually the case with a bully like her she went back into her house. That's not the first time i've confronted her about her dispicable behaviour. The last time i became so furious "i told her to act her flipping age." She was surprised when she saw me pacing in front of her house, but she knew her nasty behaviour wouldn't be tolerated. This woman has snobbed other peoples families, there's an elderly woman who has to visit solicitors regularly because this one woman has been trying to make herself look good by saying she'll have some of the neighbours thrown out. I've heard when people try and apologise to her, or confront her and ask her if they can resolve the issue she has, she wont come out to speak to them even if their really calm. She looks miserable most days, yet i've noticed nothing makes her feel happier than the sadness of other people she's a real piece of work. She seems to crave attention. For example most people having a private conversation would talk quietly on their mobile phones, not this woman. Unlike anybody in our neighbourhood, or anybody i've seen, she puts her phone on the loudest speaker so it's practically a microphone and talks either in her garden or in the front of her house so everybody can hear her conversations. It's utterly strange, it's as though she craves attention.

Joel Osteen: God makes miracles out of our mistakes

I'm feenin for some jodeci: Delicious song

Luvvv this song: Cameo candy

luv this video:A.S.A Jailer

The downside to competition

How many times have we been there? You have a goal, a dream, or an ambition, and you talk about it till the saliva's leaking out of your mouth. You bleed it to the ears of those around you. Whilst it's just talk everythings fine, the support is there, they encourage you, and they constantly say things like "Of course you can do it, you'd be amazing at it. "They discuss all these avenues, and routes, you can take to get it done. Then you actually take action, and lo and behold, results start to show. Your no longer talking out of your neck, they can actually see these things happening, and suddenly there's a strange air. You sense that you've done something wrong, yet have no idea what it is. The energy becomes awkward. You quickly notice that the same person who used to share everything with you, literally confide out their intestines. Is suddenly secretive. As though their hiding something from you. If you're both passionate about the same field, you begin to notice their hiding information which you sense they worry might be useful to you. You feel an air of competition, yet have no idea where it comes from. You ask them if everything is fine, they grin as if everything is perfect. And yet, you notice when there are others with the same skill as the two of you, they seem less threatened by it. There's a natural energy, you don't sense the razor blade of a threat. Sometimes someone's fear is greater than what is actually taking place. Someone's lack of confidence in an area is more about them than it is about you, they are projecting.

Growing up i was often told how competitive i was by people who had a similar interests as me. For a while i would pretend to be amused, but as i got older i began to secretly resent it. I began to see that in someways people who others had viewed as less threatening, were treated with a laidback air.

I would define myself as somewhat of an action Barbie, someone who always feels like they have to do something or be active in some way.My goals were always ridiculously high and just hearing that someone was doing something would always remind me that i needed to take action in some way for myself. My brain doesn't go, hey this person is doing this, i need to beat them. My brain is on auto pilot and goes, ACTION!ACTION NOW!NOW! For example have you ever walked with someone watched them pick up the pace and then set your speed to electric because you know you need to pick up the pace?
Internally i often ask myself a simple question, is it that i am over competitive, or has this person created some fiction in their minds that i'm here to beat them, and trying to make them look bad.

We all have a shadow that haunts us. A ghost that we may well be competing with, and is far from human. For example i suffered from tonic chlonic seizures and panic attacks for years, and spent almost a lifetime defending myself against bullies or some other insecure person with a conflict. In my mind when i accomplish the goals i accomplish, or the dreams however far fetched they are that i dream. I am stamping myself with my own approval. Validating to myself that i'm worth more faith, more self trust, more confidence. There are people who love others thinking that their so competitive, yet competition can be looked at in both a negative and a positive light.

Competition puts us in the fertile soil of endless possibility, we stretch and we expand ourselves, we grow, and a deadline adds pressure to the purpose.Yet sometimes the illusion that 'WE ARE COMPETITIVE' alienates those we love. When they thing about us they think about being shown up, or the possibility of looking bad.

The little things we do suddenly take on a double meaning.We become both annoyed and confused, especially if those same people have told us were amazing,awesome, fantastic, yet we sense that strange air of conflict, and have to puzzle over their actions, as actions speak a whole lot louder than words.We are not competing with them we are simply trying to reach our highest selves, and anybody with a disability always feels that little bit more on edge. As though is the time nigh, and if it is what is my life cv saying about me?

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How many times do we ask that question? Is it my imagination, someone can't be acting this cruelly for no reason can they? And if they hate me so much why are they trying to compete with me? If i'm so much lesser than them..wouldn't they try and compete with someone more....like them? Jealousy is an irrational emotion. Sometimes it can be just as irrational as anger. Are you good looking, intelligent, have wealthy posessions, popular and likeable?Maybe you wouldn't describe yourself as these things, but whatever quality you have,this is the reason some insecure individual is trying to railroad you. Gossip about you, cultivating new and improved vicious lies, sabotaging you anyway possible, or giving you as cold a shoulder as you'd feel if you lived in a fridge freezer. When someone is jealous of you and being vindictive, rather than expressing their admiration, it's shared in a warped abusive way, because their in a negative state of mind. Their not happy with who they are and what they have to offer. Jealous people go as far as copying you,then striving to do things so much better than you, in order to get the praise they feel you've acquired, of which their mind convinces them they deserve. Dont be fooled by their power play. Jealousy is a prison all of it's own. Jealous people are never happy. If you sense that someone is trying to make you look bad, making nasty remarks, that originate with jealousy, distance yourself. Jealous people attack the self esteem if their not offering you growth and support, get it from positive friends, family members and colleagues. What their offering you don't need it, what their selling, you aint buying. Leave them to their insecure devices and focus on doing your own thing. If you care strongly for them, confront them in a non accusatory tone, when aprivate opportunity arises. "I've noticed your acting a bit differently towards me, have i done something to offend you?" Let them share their side of the story, it may not be jealousy you may have actually done something to offend them. Yet the best thing to do is trust your gut instinct, most jealous people wont confess to being jealous because it makes them feel weak.Guess what? There are plenty of more secure confident people in society, it's time to mingle mercilessly.

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