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How to empower yourself:Forgiving the enemy

Clinton story about Nelson Mandela

“Mandela made a grand, elegant, dignified exit from prison and it was very, very powerful for the world to see. But as I watched him walking down that dusty road, I wondered whether he was thinking about the last 27 years, whether he was angry all over again. Later, many years later, I had a chance to ask him. I said, ‘Come on, you were a great man, you invited your jailers to your inauguration, you put your pressures on the government. But tell me the truth. Weren’t you really angry all over again?’ And he said, ‘Yes, I was angry. And I was a little afraid. After all I’ve not been free in so long. But,’ he said, ‘when I felt that anger well up inside of me I realized that if I hated them after I got outside that gate then they would still have me.’ And he smiled and said, ‘I wanted to be free so I let it go.’ It was an astonishing moment in my life. It changed me.” http://lenski.com/letting-go-of-anger-resentment-and-grudges/



I thought about anger today, and how resentment swallows you up like a starved prisoner. In the short term we feel strong, in the long term the negative things we focus on claim us. Do you want to give your life to someone who you know is not worthy, not of your time, not even of your spiritual communication. It's such a load to hold anger and resentment in your heart. It causes illness, creates more fear, and are you actually happy for being able to recollect all the nasty things, someone who right now could simply be as forgetful as a fly has done to you?forgiveness is one of the hardest things to do. I've spent ages resenting a woman who unrightfully acted negatively and superior towards my family. A woman who hasn't achieved, neither her family accomplished some of the accolades we have as a unit. Each member of our family has their own creative style, and cv of success. This woman i knew was governed by her own jealousy, and feelings of inferiority and discontent. No matter how nice or polite we were, sometimes members of her family would be locked out and we'd let them pass through our house. This is a basic neighbourly thing to do. Her family have never done that for us. During a panic attack i'd asked her partner to simply dial the ambulance's number, as when i have panic attacks, or as an epileptic my body is preparing for a seizure, her partner refused yet as god would have it my sister was on her way home. You don't have to be best friends with someone. You just have to try and forgive them in your heart, so you can move on. Resentment taints the ability to trust, it creates a barrier not just between you and someone that made the wrong choices, acted in the wrong way, was negative, hostile and wicked. Celebrate your empowerment, celebrate your free mind. One day people will bring that person's name up, you'll hear a vicious or decietful comment that person made, you may bump into that person on the street, and you will feel nothing anymore. They will mean nothing and all their power is gone.SET YOURSELF FREE!!!

Books that help creative people with depression: The van gogh blues

Every creative hits that funk. When the ideas have stopped, and there's nothing on the page.creative people are known for their infamous bouts ofdepression.All industries are tough for progression, and feelings of depression come easily when we feel were not meeting our goals, hitting our targets, and experiencing the positive acclaim we yearn for.Beating depression for the new year is pivotal in moving towards the next stage of the creative ladder. We need to be mentally prepared for the new year. Click on the link below,the van gogh blues is without a doubt, a necessity for the new year.

Christmas Cracker: Rori Raye Dating Dilemma's solved

Having difficulty in the dating playground? Check out rori raye collection of dating tips and advice books.Why settle for a newsletter when you can down a gin and tonic, and read the whole book. Click on the link below.Don't be lonely this christmas ladies.

Dating momma's boys: Ladies a delicious clip of what to look forward to...YUM!!

Whoaaaaaaa if i had a mother like this, i'd be terrified to even breathe. Momma's boys is a show where a guy, and his mother are both put in a mansion with loads of hot tottie and she helps him decide who the right woman for him is. Momma's boy's are often ruled by domineering, overbearing mothers who are terrified of being replaced.This is why women all around the world drrrreeeeeeeeeeead datingmomma's boys.

This is an extreme case,but you get where i'm coming from. There are though some guys whose mother have a positive input towards their dating experience, less scared of being disposed of, more happy that her son has simply found, someone who likes him for who he is. They have their own opinions don't get me wrong, but they believe in advising, rather than bullying, throwing tantrums, and manipulating. They trust their sons judgement.

DIFFERENT VIDEO ON AUTISM: THUMBS UP FOR WELCOME TO MY LIFE

Ilove this video it gives a different perspective to dealing with autism . We are often aware about how difficult it is for someone with a disability, but how about how it affects their family members. Having suffered with epilepsy, endometriosis, panic attacks (a real buffet)as i've gotten older i've begun to take into account how my disability affects those around me. The sacrifices, and the unpredictability. Great job!!

Christmas cracker: Very inspirational Baroness Grey Thompson is Bitchin

This is inspiration , there are people in life who just refuse to give in. Refuse to be stopped and push on to make a difference for themselves and others. Baroness Grey Thompson is certainly one of them. Despite struggling with spina bifida, she refused to let anything get in the way of her passion for athletics. She has won numerous awards and is all round...completely kick-ass.

The million dollar immigration question

America and the immigration issue have literally swallowed the news media consistently. I have my own interesting take on it. For example a lot of people who are anti immigration are frustrated that their missing out on job opportunities, housing, they feel the benefit system is being defrauded, and many complain that they almost feel suffocated. Well a lot of immigrants are going for jobs that these individuals wouldn't look twice at. I find it quite amusing that many argue as though being an immigrant means your automatically given a better quality of life. The delusion is that these immigrants haven't had to sacrifice anything, they haven't missed out on familiar surroundings, are not in any shape or form entering slightly hostile arena's. There are those who complain that immigrants enter their country and seem to be magically progressing.


Yet if you asked some of those individuals how they use their time, you'll find a host of wasted time and wasted opportunities. It's almost as though there are some that don't even want 'illegal aliens' what a term, to have an option. Most of us want to live an idealistic existence.Have the best stuff for ourselves and our families. Here's the thing though. A mercedes benz will still cost thousands of dollars, i can't imagine a car salesman with a sign saying special offer, or discounted prices for illegal immigrants. A million pound mansion will still require a million pounds. A holiday will still cost the same fee.Shouldn't things be more about improving the economy, than petty squabbles about who should be allowed to work to do so? It's a question not just for America, but for the world. Why do we need to be so separatist? Why do some need to be looked at as Alien whilst others are accepted as 'belonging'? Most people have migrated from one country to another country over decades of generations, so who are the aliens? Isn't everybody just trying to find their feet? Is this more about prejudice than protection? illegal immigrants

Explaining courage and neuro fibromatosis

I was watching a video on youtube, and the lady speaking discussed about ignorant people. She said why don't people just ask and i'll explain what my disability is rather than acting inappropriately. Because their ignorant. Ignorant people are not looking for the rational explanation about the problem, their simply looking for a way to judge themselves as superior to you. Her disability or illness is not something you miss, it's a graphic show stopper. But this is a gutsy lady,the people who laugh and ridicule and act disgustingly immaturely, this is more about them than it is is about her. Fear and guilt can be translated to such appauling behaviourisms. I imagine there are those who have had the class to treat this woman with some dignity and show some self respect.neuro fibromatosis

An Amazing woman:Intern fights to support abused autistic children

After experiencing negative behaviour, and bullying in one of my work places. It gives me pride to say there are still many people out there who have the guts to do the right thing, and stand up for those in a vulnerable position. This intern reported a techer that was abusing kids with autism. After being told to keep her mouth shut by the dean,told by colleagues it wa probably her own perspective, even at the cost of loosing her position and having to start from scratch. She knew what was right, and she did it!!That's what i call guts. http://youtu.be/No1Z8KOeW7o

You can subscribe to her on youtube, her name is motley prism

As a society we should do al we can to support people like this, because it isn't just 'their perspective', they have reason to be alarmed. An adult bullying a child is as disgusting as it gets, a teacher bullying an autistic child...that's just pathetic.

Postive mental attitude:Pushing through the chaos

I don't even know where to start, sometimes i wonder if anyone does. There's that saying jack of all trades, master of none? Whoaaa, i literally got up this morning and had no idea which life skill to focus on first. What idea to feed, what concept, so i've decided little by little. Jot some notes, list which direction i want things to move in, what steps i'll take. One thing i've learned....the hard way. Rome isn't or wasn't built in a day. Everything in life is a process. No matter how much you want to be leading competitor or are dealing with negative people, you have to just push on. Focus on the goals and not so much the glory. Nothing is perfect in an instant,life is progressive.

How to get rich and why?

Two years ago, i'd been prewarned. I walked into the house with my recently bought box of foreverr living products. My sister shook her head, and we laughed together. "Jesus you've been had as well?" I nodded fully embracing the hillarity of the situation. "Didn't you listen to what i told you about my experience with them?" I shrugged. I didn't care. I wanted to make my first million wether it was through forever living, or avon. The talk was there, the gusto was there, but the strength of the why was not. Why did i and why do many people want to make a fortune making money, to change their life, and to improve their lifestyle. I would want to make a million so my family would have more accessibility, financial freedom, have our own property, run successful businesses, have money in place to start investing in the next generation. The why has to be strong enough. Words are not enough when trying to take on a goal of such audacity. Why does a woman like me believe i can, why do i feel as though it's possible? Because other people have achieved this goal. Other people have pushed on and triumphed, other people have the audacity to believe they can travel to the moon and back, why on earth shouldn't we? If you have a goal, push on. You may just have started and see it as incredibly hard work, but push on anyway, the outcome may put a smile on your face.

Market envy: Your unique selling point

I could go into one of my self acclaimed rants about envy, or i could aid you in this way. Every product has a unique selling point, something that attracts audiences, and makes them invest. What is market envy? Market envy is the cup that sits on a shelf wishing it were a plate, or the plate that groans in the dishwasher convinced life would be easier and he would wash quicker if he were a spoon. Market envy is the product of not accepting your own unique selling point. it's looking at the market and wanting to be everybody's everybody, feeling inappropriate and jealous of the lives of others. Lets try and be content with who we are, and what we bring to the table people.Have you ever seen a cup thats glued with a spoon, a plate, and a knife, how do you pick it up? How would you sell it? Or market it to an audience? Would it be accessible? Or would someone just pick it up and go "koooooooooooooooooool" then put it back down again? It's great to be diverse, anyone in business knows diversity brings in a lot of money. Yet it's an even hotter topic to appreciate the core of who you are....although i get we all have our moments.Yet we all search for that bit of freedom within our identity, to enjoy our life journey with our own unique self identity. Jealousy and sabotage is like admitting your not good enough. Does anyone really want to be saying that out loud?

Quick cash stash: Make money blogging

How do you makequick cash blogging? Well you have to have a targeted audience, an effective online marketing campaign, and a product that is in high demand. Some blogs go specialist.

Now is the time to capitalise on the skills you have, focus on finding some tips for a bestselling marketing campaign for your topic. The myth is that potential clients do not want to invest in products. There's easy and cheap marketing to encourage people to buy. Your offeringlife changing products. People often want to how to invest in products that have specific benefits. What are the benefits of your product, or simply your website. Why should the regular joy pull money out of his pocket for your site? You need to know how to sell instant gratification.
Learn from the masters. Watch teleshopping ads and adverts.Listen to the words they use. Is there a product you've found yourself tempted to buy? Have you noticed that everyweightloss exercise equipment tempts even the skinniest person to buy? When you know what their really selling, you can find a way to use the same language and sell it too. They are not being marketed the product, but the dream of the product. It's easy to use, it's durable, you will be seen as attractive, partners will find you irresistible, you will be more confident, you will have higherself esteem. How are they makingeasy money, they understand human emotion, and are buying and selling to their audiences insecurities. Astrategic marketingcampaign, with an effective use of images, andmarketing buzzwords has secured a fast cash make your first million.

The key seller online is often the topic how to make easy money, because someone is having a nightmare at work, you need to know how to quit your job and make a million. They think about all the work colleagues they loathe, the injustices they've experienced, or how quickly the money goes on bills, the wrong person who got promoted.That hunger drives them.Or someone's been queing up at the job centre for ages, when their finally seen to their patronised, or ridiculed. It could be a number of things, from seeing an ex, to watching their most hated enemy cruise by in a mercedes benz. Human beings are always emotional shoppers, no matter how logical they seem


Knowledge is one of the key things to invest in when trying to figure outhow to make a million. Knowledge is finance. People come to you, because you know something they dont know, or you have something they dont have.Information and a product. It's great to have the information, and even better to have the product, but you have to market extremely well. You have to understandhow to sell online how to use the internet for sales and marketing.

If you have a lack of capital you can be the middle person and sell for companies like amazon associates, the viral ad network, and chitika. There are many more organisations, but you have to have a strong platform. Be easy to find on the internet, and attempt to rank high when people search online.

The first thing to do is ask yourself some key marketing questions.
What do i want to sell?
Who is my audience?What would engage them?
Where can i advertise?
What words and phrases are likely to get their attention? Do i have a unique selling point, or do i choose a product that's extremely popular, and guaranteed to make a splash
You can Run viral ads on your blog, and produce a quick business plan, and organise the structure of your website or blog.See your blog as a very attractive superstore, if your customers can't get to what they want quickly, they'll become frustrated and leave. You want to make that sale, with all the competitors on the internet, you want to hook them straight away.

Understanding Jealous people

We assume that jealousy is always about material, and superficial or shallow things. We understand that jealousy is about fancy cars, modellesque beauty, iconic clothes and promotions. Sometimes people can be jealous of who you are, or things that even you can't see. Jealous of your confidence, creativity, guts and gusto. Envious that someone else is more respected than they are, and frustrated that these flaws they hold on to about the object of their jealousy and loathing, are not validated with the intense envy they feel. Jealous people can often appear to be nice people, warm and kind, but a sinister sinisism lurks beneath their false smiles. What are the signs of envious people? One of the key ones is someone who hates you for absolutely no reason. Someone who randomly chooses to dislike you and spreads poison to ruin your reputation. Jealous people bitch behind your back, but are often too cowardly to express themselves to your face, why is that? Because of their envy, they don't want you to challenge them, because not only will a face to face confrontation with you expose their behaviour for what it truly is, but it is an issue that they dont want to resolve. It is an issue that they have with themselves.Something that makes them feel weak. Someone whose lonely may resent the fact that your popular and outgoing, they may describe you as loud and brash. Someone whose insecure about their sexual appeal, may call you easy, unattractive, or even desperate because you get more attention than them. Someone whose unconfident, may see your confidence as a threat.Jealous people will often make biting comments or attempt to humiliate you when they can. Some jealous people will attempt to socially alienate you, so you start to loose self esteem and the thing that you celebrate about yourself you begin to question. You'll notice that envious people will often seem/look happier or stronger the more down you feel. That's them getting high off the confidence they stole from you.

Just for the record, their jealousy isn't about you. It may seem to be, but actually it's not. It's about the things that individual feels their lacking in life. Being around you makes them react so negatively, because it reminds them about their flaws and insecurities.Rather than face their confidence issues and past emotional baggage, they project their problems unto you.You become the target of their own personal hate campaign, Because face it, your an enemy they can see. Overly posessive people will often turn on a target their intimidated by, saying things like that person is too clingy, too needy, or anything they can think of, because they need to distract others from their controlling nature. The more isolated you are. The more vulnerable you are to their insults and bullying. I've noticed that most of the people who made my life hell were jealous of something i had, how did i discover this? The same people would try and imitate me, copying how i spoke or how i acted to prove to themselves that not only could they be me, but they could be me better than i could. People who acted completely normal, nice, rational with everyone else, would come around me and begin to desperately compete. Jealous people are often people who don't feel like they measure up. It can be confusing as you may meet someone that seems to have it all, beauty, finances, great partner, yet towards you their behaviour shows extreme jealousy, that isn't just witnessed by you but by others. Human beings pick all sorts of reasons to feel inadequate. We just have to remember, as frusrating as it gets, it's a good, phenomenal, positive quality they see in you, which they dont have, and they cant have.

Here's some more positive information. There is many a time we come across nasty, jealous people, and those around them canot see their behaviour for what it is.We start to feel feelings of betrayal, hurt, and even anger at our peers for not seeing what we see, yet guess what? That persons agenda will be found out eventually, because it's not the person they have the problem with. It's the quality, or the trait. All you have to do is sit tight, or find some people you'll have an amazing time with, it's only a matter of time before that person reels their ugly jealous head on someone else. In the meantime, you'll be getting on with the business of being happy.

The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves. ~William Penn, Some Fruits of Solitude, 1693

Jack Johnson:Gone going

I thought of Jack Johnson jack johnsonas a tribute to someone who recently lost a very special person. They lived, they loved, and they left, it's hard for those who remain, grieving their loss.

Trust: Positive Risk and How to trust

Trust like respect is earned.how to trust I didn't understand that growing up. I thought you always dive into situations head first, having the one with all the trust, desperate to win people over. This morning i sat in front of my sister mourning a past version of myself. The girl who two years ago would have done anything, and everything to please others, a girl who trusted blindly, and let people in, with such ease. In the past two/3 years a lot of crap has happened. Things that in life has you holding your hands out saying what the hell did i do? It doesn't make sense things came out this way. It's like wanting to dye your hair brown, and it coming out neon green/ purple. You read the directions over and over again. You scan each line methodically and at the end you scream, "what the hell this doesn't make sense?" "How did this happen?" Yet no matter how we look at it sometimes life just wont make sense. You say "I did a+b+c it's supposed to equal blah blah blah." Life just won't make sense everytime. That's why 'when bad things happen to good people' was written.I realise that i've become that girl giving an inch,observing, figuring out if someone deserves to be let in. Wanting to let someone get close yet due to stubborn principles, being frustrated about letting them in. Life puts you through the grindstone. It's like an obstacle course, and in obstacle courses layers of skin will be bruised, penetrated, left bleeding, with open sores, scars, and visible mistakes. If you are left with any iota of faith, principles, trust, confidence, you should pat yourself on the bat.




I realised that one of my key foundations, trust, has been shaken. Only trust is not simply a founding, it is a comprise of many different layers. Layers that have been ripped, bruised, battered and are taking time to heal. But it's taught me something valuable. People do have to earn my trust, as well as my respect. We are worth such efforts. The aim is not to villainise people, but to allow for a change, those who truly love us and truly care, to show they are worthy of taking a positive risk. We learn how to trust not by assumptions, but a series of visual risk. Actions that show that individual is willing to do rather than say. Behaviours that show an individual is supportive rather than poisonous. People will make mistakes because we are human i guess, but we have to decide wether those mistakes can be forgiven, based upon character.

Jazzing up the juice: Getting past Writers and creative blocks

Wow so as a writer, i seem to find myself, producing ideas yet intimidated by their vastly diabolical concepts. Have you ever had an idea that's so brilliant, you don't know wether your the one to write it, or produce it? Do you find yourself glorifying publicly, yet intimidated by a blank sheet of paper, or a buzzing screen that glares at you like a warden. I've decided to do as suggested,anthony robbins said write for the wastepaper basket. Structure wise, language wise, it can all be edited or redrafted. If you have nothing, you have nothing to work with. If youre a creative, someone with an idea, a goal, or a visual, just do you. There is no other choice. Often we awe at the greatness of those that came before us, hungry to fall in step, chomping at the nail, basking in a fear, that at times can be stifling, at other times is the lucozade you need. The push, the climax. Then the other part of our brain locks in, the part that thinks about how to make money , and structure,and exaggeratedly questions every miniscule agenda. Questions about audience and marketing campaign,a voice that whispers it's futile. Your like the girl that dyed her hair red convinced that no other red heads exist. Or the guy that bought himself a laptop believing no one else in civilisation knew what it was. How ridiculous? We have to ask ourselves the right questions. How can i make this work, how can i enjoy attempting to make this work. Create two stages, the personal stage, how does this appeal to me, why does this get my juices flowing. The second stage how will it appeal to others, how do i get their juices going?