The Uncanniness of Love

I was thinking about the uncanniness of life, and of all things the uncanniness of love. Love is scary. It's like walking to the edge of a cliff and daring to jump off, but may have you on your knees. Tilting your head down at the gushing lake. We glare from above, terrified to jump in, because the water may be a shock to the system, and no one wants blood rushing to the head again, who wants to feel too human. Our robotic emotions keep us safe, and keep the world at a distance. It's a world of emotions that we dont need to analyse, second guess, question, and sometimes those questions are terrifying. The wrong question may get you the wrong answer the wrong answer might get you hurt. Life is full of complicated emotions and complicated things, nothing more complicated than human emotions, nothing more complicated than love. Love makes angels whisper secrets about people's hearts they didn't give heads up about, keys are dangerous things to loose. I remember a poem by Shakespeare growing up. My mistresses eyes.

My mistresses eyes

My misstresses eyes
are nothing like the sun
Coral is far more red than her lips red
If snow is white
Why then her breasts are dun,
If hairs be wires 
Black wires grow on her head;
I have seen roses damasked;
Red and white;
But no such roses
See i in her cheeks
and in the air is there more delight
Than in the air of my mistress reeks
I love to hear her speak,
Yet well i know
 That music hath a far more pleasing sound
I grant i never saw a goddess go;
My mistress , when she walks on the ground
And yet by heaven, i think my love as rare
as any she belied with false compare.
Shakespeare


Him

Tiptoe in Garden;
Words in my head;
Sounds echoe like a jukebox
Courage flees instead;
And all these clever words
That hide and seek
Lurk in the mystery
Of a heart so deep
Fear it jumps
Gyrates it's tune
Pain it howls up at the moon
Digits clock and rule the head
I lie restless,
anxious
afraid in bed
Love is scary
Itchy feet
Make hearts they flutter
Armoured walls
They melt like butter
Then i tiptoe back inside
For clever phones
Where smart girls hide.

Otatade Iseghohi Okojie

The Love yourself library

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You have to love yourself more so when others try and tear you down. We all have flaws and insecurities. If you join others to dissect and destroy who you are, then ultimately they have won and you have lost. Focus on building yourself up, and loving exactly who you are. The world is full of awesome incredible different people. Differences make the world go round, celebrate who you are, showcase your strengths and shine. The world needs everybody to be different, to be strong. Be who you are, you only live once. Be positive and shine for the whole world to see. You are unstoppable, be infinite in who you are. You are timeless and you are strong.

The importance of knowing who you are

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When people are convinced with trying to convince you that your ugly or flawed in some way, it's because that's how they feel deep down inside. Tearing you down makes them feel better about themselves but not for long because were only human and our rightful place is to ascend. In the workplace people become the target of Office bullies, the Playground, even in simple routines such as going to and from the local retail store, yet we have to realise, which i started to, those people will learn tha comparing themselves to you, and competing with you will bring their self esteem nowhere. In fact they will become doubly insecure, and others around them will be slightly turned off by this compulsive need to put the magnifing glass or measuring tape up to the two lives. Once upon a time i would find myself adjusting changing certain things about myself about my life to accomodate other peoples inferiority complexes, and as i would change and adjust it never fit quite right. I soon began to realise those people were never happy because they were miserable within themselves. Misery likes company, dont let other people define who you are. They are unhappy within themselves let them fix them and let you, build you. Love yourself and build yourself confidence. It is priceless.

Beauty as subjective

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Beauty is subjective. In life not everyone will appreciate you for who your unique beauty, qualities, gifts, we must always celebrate and appreciate our own uniqueness.

Coping with Change: Understanding evolving relationships

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Relationships change and sometimes it's the hardest thing to deal with. The ever changing push and pull tug of what did i do to change this dynamic, could i have been a better version of myself? Could i have been a more patient self? Could i have acted more as the person they gravitate to. Then we realise, we are who we are. In life the people who love you are supposed to accept you for who you are, wether it suits them or not. Sometimes you may love the bones off someone and the next day, not like them so much, the reality is we are only human. It is not a crime to be you. There was a point where i had so many people consistently telling me there was something wrong with the way i was, who i was as a person, and then i looked with disgust as these people would try and imitate me. Or people who tear you down to friends and relatives, wait till everybody's gone, try and get close to you, then when their frustrated they can't you become the bad guy. Your suddenly the villain, which means they don't have to be accountable for anything. Here it is in a nutshell, we are all allowed choice. I believe in the simplicity of it all, sometimes in life you never know what people envy about you. From your looks, to your confidence, to your personality, whatever it is. It is their problem. If your willing to learn as you grow, adapt, be vulnerable, because life is the biggest teacher. Life will humble us, and bring you to your very knees. We are all learning and we are all growing, celebrate who you are, because you only live once.

Merry xmas everyone from Red ebony! Make sure it's a happy one.

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Xmas doesn't guarantee that we will automatically be happy. Yet your happiness is vital for the day. We fight for our cars, jobs, people who are abandoning us, homes, fight for your happiness day to day, because in life there are distractions. I once made the assumption that simply because you decide to get your life on the right path, the whole world will instantly agree with you. Everybody else will fall into line, everybody will high five you and give you a pat on the back, and tell you how awesome you are. Just for the heads up this Xmas remind yourself how awesome you are no matter who is trying to tear you down, we deal with trial after trial, jealous attention seekers, assuming that if they shine a light on our flaws nobody will notice theirs. In life you are allowed to have flaws, it's called being Human. Celebrate your life.

Signs of a bitter ex: Absolutely hysterical!!

This is absolutely hysterical, i almost wet myself laughing....so true to life.